Women 40 & over-Trying to concieve, very depressed, crying?

I just turned 41, been trying to convieve for 5-yrs., boyfriend won't do his test, says it's to embarrassing, doctor says I'm fine but can't do much without him being tested. Fertility clinic says I should do a sperm donor but although they do test for STD'S I'm just afraid of what I don't know that can show up later on. I tried Chlomid-3 cycles, made my period go crazy for almost a year, each time I try Chlomid, now I am bleeding on and off for the past 3 mon. Meantime I'm in a job that just isn't me, job market is scare, afraid to move on into something else, people are nice here, 2-cats I had for years both died within a year of each other of cancer, boyfriend of 15 yrs. annoces, to late, that he has to mcuh debt to have kids, to old to look for a new man, friends are all moved, married and moved on. I feel alone, I cry all the time, everytime I see someone pregnant or with kids, I think I'll never be married, have children and never hear the word "mom", now what?, what's left ?

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Adoption. I know that it isn't the same as actually being pregnant but if you cannot get pregnant on your own then you should really consider adoption. I have found a few websites for adopting kids from foreign countries. Just think. There is a child out there that is in an orphanage and needs a good mom. Someone who will love then and take care of them and be there for them. It sounds like you have a great heart but you are just going through a rough time. Look at the websites and just think about it. Also they do let single women adopt. You do not have to be married so don't let that stop you.

www.abcadoptions.com
www.adoption.com
adoption.about.com
www.adoption.org

there is adoption, and just wait and see what happens

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