A female finds out she must have a child within a year or two, we're just friends but should I help?
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well hun, considering to help a freind like this could be a challenge . you need to consider what type of impact this is going to have on your freindship. you will be joined together for the rest of your life if you choose to have a child with her. if you cannot agree on disipline, schooling, dating and all the other little things that people that are in love and married are going to come across you may be getting in deeper than you should. you will be financially responsible for this child till the child turns 18 or so depending on the laws in your state. if you think that you are ready for the midnight feedings, diaper dutie, and the fact that since you do not live together if there are differences of opinion the only recorse you will have to see your child would be to take her to court. this could turn into a very messy situation where you could posibly hurt more than your freindship because there will be a child involved. i wish you the best of luck you need to listen to your heart on this one you are the only one that will be able to know how you are going to react to all the things that could go with this. good luck hun
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Help her by giving her a % of the cost of a reputable sperm bank, and plenty of emotional support.
You should do what you feel is the right thing for you, (secondly her) to do....think and reflect and look into everything (court documents, child support-yes you'd have to pay unless she said no, and other parental related things, how it would affect your relationship together and the rest of your life). No , you should a a baby with someone you love enough to being in another life .She may have a medical reasons and there are sperm banks for this reason . She will expect more than your sperm ! At a donor bank she has no one to take to court for child support or complain about varies things . She can get pregnant and you can be there as her friend to help her even to be as a step dad . But not the birth father ! Seems she feels breaking up with you wasn't the best for her now . To keep friendship on that level don't offer a part of your off spring . That's a life time request ! All of your life this baby is a part of you ! THE BABY WILL NOT CONSIDER YOU A FRIEND BUT FATHER THAT SIMPLE . And the lady knows this !
If it feels right, then you should probably do it. Talk to her A LOT about it first.
There are many ways to help out a friend , fathering a child?Not helping. This is a child who will grow up and expect you to be morally and financially responsible for him/her for the next 20 years. Are you willing to make a such a commitment? It's not about friendship.
Find a good wife for yourself and request your friend to find someone for her too. There are def. sperm donors but sperm donors cannot be fathers and a child needs a father so keep in mind the life of the child. I hope you make a wise choice. You are a very kind person for thinking of offering, but you would be taking on way too much of this for a friend. This is something you do for someone you LOVE!!!
Just because medically she should have a child now does not mean she is ready to have a child. She can freeze her eggs and find a sarrogot, she could adopt, there are many options.
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