whats wrong with my husband??
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Right, let me see: you thought up the whole idea and presented it to your husband. After he got used to the idea, you got his agreement/consent. You say:
"He'll get all excited about other little things and brag on and on about them"
Yet, you also say:
"he hasnt askd me any questions like if ive missed my periods or how im feeling".
So your problem is that you do not like the things that your husband likes, brags about, gets excited about. You would rather he was excited ON YOUR TERMS -- you want to have control over that.
You TOLD your husband what YOU WANTED. He MADE IT CLEAR that he did NOT WANT WHAT YOU WANTED... that didn't stop you; YOU WAITED... then ASKED HIM to change his mind.
The man wants peace, he's your husband: he's there to give you what you want, what's best for you, for the family. The provider. You confer that role on him by your words and actions. Good for you -- you are the management, you came up with the vision, the presentation, no doubt the method statement, mission statement and now you are complaining about quality! lol! You are THE BOSS alright.
You are centre-stage, you want to be the centre of attention. You want him to be concerned with YOU YOU YOU -- how YOU are feeling etc. It is not good enough that you are boss, that he's doing what you want etc. You want emotions too.
Most men start getting sidelined in the wedding organisation (women close ranks), and this is continued with pregnancy -- he's not involved (other than a bit part), it's happening to him, around him, it should be up to you to involve him, to listen to him, take his ideas and opinions on board, it could be a partnership a shared thing... but no, he'll be sidelined and you'll be the wife, the mother the main childcare expert, the kitchen expert, the cleaning expert, the women-lore, nurse, caring expert -- he's just a wallet with a penis! lol!
Hope this made you laugh and that it helps your relationship if you didn't laugh!
Other Answers:
OMG!! I think our hubbys should be friends, lol. Mine is doing the same thing but the way I see it is I want another baby, I want my son to have a sibling, I do 99% of the child rearing already so really its my choice.
I know that he will be happy about it when its here, I just think with all the waiting, and testing, and appoinments, men just get bored and they just want it to happen.
Give him time.
have u asked urself r u truly ready well is he maybe he is doing it 4u or how r ur finances support,mental,physical u have 2 make sure of that 1st,anyway a child is born thru GOD so even if u boom/boom everyday it still has 2come from GOD.wish u luck hope it works out 4u I think you both need to sit down and talk. My husband and I have a daughter and he is the one saying we should have Talia a sibling. I think it is the females role to look after the children but I think that the father should play an active role in it. Men don't think or talk like women I think the big question to ask is was he like with the first child??? Maybe he feels another child not as exciting as the other things when it arrives and he holds it I'm sure he will change.
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