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My boyfriend and I lost our first baby. I was two months. At the time of the preganacy he was so excited. Touch my belly everyday.Than I lost it. A year later I want to try again. i told him he said no. I think he is just scared and afraid. i want to come out pregant and surprise him, I know he will be happy. How do I get him to live it in? How do I change his mine? Please help I am not getting younger.

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SO sorry to hear your loss, I have been there. I wouldn't suggest doing something to get pregnant when he seems opposed. Talk to him heart to heart and find out why he is against it. IF you do something like stop taking the pill or poke holes in a condom, it could really back fire

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I think seeking professional help is the best way out.

First of all, don't have a baby with a man who won't MARRY YOU. Second, if he doesn't want one, don't have one. You go getting puffy, he'll have vapor trail shoes in a BIG hurry. Find someone else if you need to make a small idiot that looks like you. Tell him this is our future and you want to start it now, you wan to begin this journey and you and your body feels its the right time.

I think your best bet is to go to your doctor & discuss the chances of you miscarring again, prob. not very high. And then go to your boyfriend with medical advice in hand and again discuss having another child. Also tell him this will not replace the baby/frtus you lost, tell him he will make such a good father it would be a shame for him never to be. I think he will change his mind.

There are people who really are not for having babies. Might it be that your boyfriend is one of them? Unless he is, I am sure that you will be able to convince him if you explain to him what difference a baby can make in your relationship. I have a 3-year old and I can tell you that having her is the best thing that ever happened to me. With every opportunity, get him close to babies(nephews, nieces, even neighbors). Watch with him programs about babies. Start buying little things for babies. Eventually, he will give in.

You cant change his mind for him, only he can do that. I can understand what you both are going thourgh: My husband and i had 2 miscarriages, then finally had a baby boy in 2003, only to loss him to SIDS. Deciding to start a family again is a very difficult decision that takes time, and possible counceling. I would suggest grief and loss counceling, it helped us.

Talk to your boyfriend about his fears. Communication is the best thing in a relationship. To you, surprising him with a pregnancy may be a great idea, and you think he would be happy. But you cant be sure on his feelings. For all you know, he could become angry or hurt if you become pregnant without his consent.

Try and determine the cause of the miscarriage before becoming pregnant again. This can help avoid another miscarraige. For me, i had an incompetant cervix, and unless i figured out medically what was wrong, i would never be able to have a full term pregnancy. I was able to get my cervix stitched closed with our nxt pregnancy.

Sometimes, there isnt a medical reason for a miscarriage, and then the chances of it happeneing again are very very low. Talk to your boyfirned about this as well, to help ease his fears.

There are some things that both you and your boyfriend can do to help avoind a miscarriage, such as quitting smoking, drinking, drugs while trying to convieve.

Good luck, and i hope the best for you and your boyfriend!
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cute_blondie_angel
mother of 2

I am sorry about your miscarraige. I understand you want to try again, but please don't get pregnant to "surprise" your boyfriend. That has to be the worst surprise, ever. To a man, it means 18 years of future garnished wages, possibly, know what I mean? It's a big responsibility and maybe he changed his mind. It's not fair to make him a parent against his will in a case like this. Good friend of mine (fertility specialist and post-natal advisor) works on Harley St (Expensive clinic in London) will be happy to help (for free!) send me an e-mail and I'll send u his e-address, really helpful bloke!

no one can feel a mothers loss of a child but the father feels so helpless maybe he feels he let you down and is afraid to be hurt again but unfortunatley this is lif. sit and talk with him and tell him how much he meens to you and you will both know when your ready. i neely lost my sun he was 3 months premiture 580 grams the nurses siad he wont live or he would be disabled but he is now 3.6 kg and as healthy as can be thanx to the 23 dedicated nurses and doctors all for him.he is my mirical and one day you will have your own mirical xox

best of luck xox Joel kei and noah

make love like you have never done before.

be extra hot and make him forget about pulling out or use condoms and poke holes in them or say you are on birth control.

no for real tell him that you want kids and if he dosent then why be together and pass up on a dream of yours.
just because you have a miscarriage dosen't mean you will again. my wife did but we have a son now.
good luck.......but make the sex hot to where he forgets

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