I know this may sound bad but....?

I found out i was pregnant back in January. I was told i concieved January 31. Heres the bad thing i slept with my boyfriend at the time on that Monday and we had our issues and i left him. And ended up sleepin with my ex on the mournin of the 31st. So can anyone give me any answers cuz this whole ordeal is starting to stress me out.....

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Sperm can live in the female body for up to 3-5 days if conditions are right. The 5 days would be unusual.

However, an estimate of when you conceived (depending on how it was computed) can be off by anywhere from 3 days to 2 weeks! So it is quite possible that either of the 2 men could be the father.

A woman ovulates about 2 weeks (usually 12-16 days) before her *next* period. So, if the estimate is based on your cycle length, it could be off by 2 days in either direction (and occasionally 3).

If the estimate is based on the first day of your last period, then it could be off by weeks. For instance, doctors always assume that you ovulate on day 14 of your cycle. This is the average which means it is *wrong* for most women!! For instance, if you were to assume that every woman you meet is 5'4" tall because this is an average, you would usually be incorrect. You can ovulate on day 8 of your cycle, and you can ovulate on day 28 of a *normal* cycle (longer if you have irregular cycles...or even if *this* cycle was destined to be longer than your usual).

If the date is based on ultrasound, it gets murkier still. Ultrasounds *can* be accurate within 3-4 days, but this is only if done by an expert who takes the time to really read the scan. Since most ultrasounds are "routine" these days, they are rarely done by an expert and are rarely looked at closely. So, the information is likely to be farther off. And if the ultrasound was done after 3 months, it's about as accurate as a guess. The baby has started growing according to its genetic endowment (i.e. a baby who has "tall genes" will be taller than one who has "short genes").

I would add, though, that there could be a quick way to determine which man is more likely to be the father...by blood types.

If the 2 men have *different* blood types, then this could rule one of them out entirely, making the decision of who to test easy. It depends on what blood type *you* are, as well. Here is a short explanation...

Blood type is determined by the two copies (one from each parent) of the blood type gene. Each gene can be A, B, or neither. If you have both an A gene and a B gene, your blood type will be AB. If you have neither an A nor a B, your blood type will be O. Otherwise, your blood type will be determined by the type you *do* have (A or B).

So...2 parents who are both type O can *only* have type O kids (they have no typing to give to the baby). One O and one AB parent can only have A or B. *One* parent who is AB (if the other is A, B, or AB) can never have a type O kid, but can have any of the other types. 2 parents who are both A or both B can only have a type O or their own type. One A and one B can have a child with *any* blood type. This won't *prove* paternity, but it can prove that someone *cannot* be the father.

Sorry this isn't more helpful...

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ouch well tell them both the ordeal and get a test done... my friend ended up killing his ex that was preg and her new bf bc she told them bouth that the baby was thiers.... in the end my friend killed himself also

Wait until you have the baby. Thats pretty much all you can do. Good luck you are going to have to get a paternity test from just one of them. Do it with the one you will have less problems with.

Paternity tests cost around $500. Did you sleep with your boyfriend on the same day?

I concur wait til baby is born

Sorry to say, absolutely NO way to know who is the father, unless you have take paternity tests. For the sake of having the real father give you child support ( which BELIEVE me,,, u WILL want..... even if you don't think so, becuz 18 years is a LONG and expensive time to raise a child ), you should find out who the father is. So, you can either chose one of them, and ask them to take the test ( or the courts can order it ) ... or tell both of them. Either way, they will both find out that you slept with someone else, it can NOT be avoided,,,, so you will just need to accept that and move on. Sounds like you're young........ if you are, and live with ur parents, or they are supportive.......def. go to them too. Good luck. we cannot time fertilization. your best answer is dna testing. get any hair samples about 10 strands with roots from any of the 2 men. if u have money,try non invasive testing costing $1000 using your blood samples. otherwise u can ask your OB for permission to get amniotic fluid which is little dangerous at your stage. u can use the babys umbilical cord blood however, you shoud inform your doctor all the time so the lab can coordinate with her to perform the test. you can research on dna testing kits and labs in the web.

There is no way to be completely sure without a test..

5 days is a very short time over a course of 9 months.

What is happy for you?
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!i if i had to guess, a educated guess, i would say the boyfriend. only because u dont get pregnant right away when a guy ejaculates in you. i think it takes a couple of days for the sperm to move up and find the egg and implant

im sorry to hear that you are having such a stressful situation, i think you should focus on the baby and your pregnancy and not worry about who the father is till after the birth there is nothing you can do now anyway and then once the baby is born you can go on maury or one of those other talk show's that do them for free

good luck!

your ex is most likely the father

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