How can I help my sister?

I have a sister who is 18 and she have two kids, her son is 3 years old and her daughter is 7 months old. She dropped out of school, she's not working and is still at home with my mother and both of the baby's daddy is not in their life. My mom has health problems and the kids are always left on her to babysit. Everytime my mom try to talk with her to find out what she's gonna do with herself and my sister always get an attitude. And since she turned 18 she feel like no one can tell her what to do. My sister is the type of female who would do more for a man than she would for her child. Both of the kids are crazy about me, especially her son. He's always left stuck in the house because his mom don't like taking him out with her, I guess because she wants to kick high and drunk with her so called friends and she know he will tell. I'm always taking him places and spending time and money with him. What can we do to make her realize she need to better herself for her kids?

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Your sister is like most of the young mothers today who want to lay down,get high and run the streets. Not taking responsibility for what they do. If you said that she feels she grown enough to tell you that because she's 18 you can't tell her anything then she need how come she's not acting like an adult to take care of her responsibilities as a parent. Also there may be issues that she may have that she's not talking about that she has had with someone loving her. We usual reflect the same kind of attention we are given. Sp, what you can do is show her Love in ways of keep caring for the children do the best you can do to show them that someone loves them. Also pray about I don't know your religious background but I know that prayer changes things. Find out does she really love her children enough to do right by them to get and get and education and a part time job . I know you don't want to see your niece or nephew
get taking by any agency's that would put them in foster care, so do the best you can right now and maybe she will really grow up and step up . Remember it takes two to make a baby so that also goes for the dead beat dads as well. God Bless you!!

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try to get her kids out of her life for awhile take them and travel or something, so she'll feel a loss for sure and she'll miss them maybe that will make her wake up and realize that her kids are more important than hanging out with her friends!

well your sis would only realized it whne the right time comes along unitl that time you better become a surrogate mom for your niece & nephew try counseling to make her relize what shes doing to her family. And if things get bad, you should consider getting the police involed for the safty of the kids, or see if maybe she'll let YOU become the gardien of the kids and let her live her life the way she wants

You have to wait for her to grow up, if having babies won't make her grow up I can't see much chance of that happening anytime soon, she should of taken precautions before having sex if she wasn't ready to be a mature and responsible parent. Thank god those kids have you around to help look after them. Goodluck.

Well, its called "tough love". Although its difficult, your mom has to make your sister toe the line or get out. I realize you are caring for the children and worried about them, but you need to do something and now.
Your sister isn't working, isn't caring for the children, isn't staying home and screwed around not once and got pg but twice. It's time someone kicked her butt out of there.
She needs an ultimatum, either shape up or ship out....period, no stories, no threats on how you'll take the children with you.....ship out if you don't want to begin now, not tomorrow but right now, get a job and stay home but one night a week and any crap and we'll call social services and gain custody of the children and kick your butt out anyway.
Sorry, but this is the only way here...............she gets an attitude when you mom talks to her because she knows she can get away with it...........it's worked so far........she figures that because of the children, you guys won't "really" do anything.....................
Good luck................

scary. she's into drugs and alcohol and takes her daughter with her while she does these things? I'd be afraid to leave her with the children... who knows what might happen to them.

She definitely needs a wake up call. Not all young mothers turn out the way she has. Has she taken those young mother classes before she had her children? Plenty of young mothers take these classes and learn something about not getting high and drunk especially when your baby's around. If she's not taking motherhood seriously it'll be hard to kick her out with the kids.

Definitely have your mom kick her out of the house though. maybe you guys can take care of the children while she finds a job or enrolls in school. Or both. tell her you want custody of them. It sounds like you are basically their mom anyway so it would just be legal that way.If she will not agree turn her in to family services and tell them you will take the kids when they remove them from her as they most likely will.
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My mom did this with my aunt so she raised my cousins and me, alone!

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