What is the best way to duck out of a baby shower?

An acquaintance (not a good friend) is having a baby shower thrown for her in 2 weeks. I really don't want to go because I'v suffered multiple recurrent-miscarriages, and am now nearing 40 years old, and feel very sad at the thought of never having my own baby. I find it very hard to go to baby showers and I prefer not to unless I absolutely have to (good friends and family members). anyways, to be blunt NO ONE understands and I'm sure my other friends who ARE going are going to think me incredibly immature and selfish if I don't go. I'm going to buy a card and a gift and maybe have a friend drop it off for me. But what else can I do that's more appropriate?

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I had a miscarriage (when I was married, years ago) and stopped going to baby showers, too. I do send gifts, with a loving card. I'm sorry this happened to you...I am just about ready to write something on this topic on my 360 page, in fact...and your question will inspire me to do so sooner.

There is healing...it takes TIME. Lots of love to you...

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Stab the expecting mother in the belly.

Problem solved.

JUST SEND A CARD SAYING SORRY NOT UP TO ATTENDING YOU DONT HAVE TO GIVE A REASON go out of town

tell them you think you are coming down with something
MUMPS
chicken pocks
you got hives

you have diarrhea and can't leave the house

you have to wash your hair
you have to wash someone Else's hair

you fell down and can not get up

I feel your pain I had a stillborn and a miscarriage, but yet everyone who is stupid keeps right on having them I love being asked to baby showers cause I just tell them the truth "My baby maker is broke and I never get the money I have invested in your kids baby showers and birthday party's so unless you plan on cutting me a check do not except me there"

Are just send a gift card in the mail and say you have ingrown hairs to pull out of you nose that day

what to do is,,,,,,,,,,3 days b4 the baby shower tell someone that is going to the shower that u havnt been well all night. Dop it the next day as well saying u feel awful.Then on the day of the shower call and say u are in bed ill.She will b so wrapped up in her shower to even care.I know how u feel bout baby showers so dont feel u are the only one>No one understands as they havnt been in that situation.I do,and im sure there are more out there just just wont say. Dont stress urself out about it huni.Just play ill for 3 days running up to the awful day. xx Good luck say you are sick, that would be a good reason not to go, you dont want to get the pregnant lady sick do ya??

Send me your acquaintances phone number and I'll call her up and say what you wrote, how you feel and that I hope she understands. I'm a third party so agruing with me will get her nowhere. If you don't want me to do it, ask a male friend with whom you can trust and she doesn't know. She will still get your gifts and card, but you are also going to put in a little note thanking her for understanding your emotional situation and why you couldn't make it.

Sorry to hear about that I can totally understand why you feel the way you do! As hard as it may sound maybe you should just call up that friend and tell her why you can't come if she doesn't want to understand then who cares she doesn't need to. But I would just tell her that I don't want to ruin her shower because I'd be so upset that everyone would pay attention to me and not her and that I don't want that on her special day and then add some joke to it.

you do not have to justify yourself to no one, just send her a present! You are not selfish or imature you just are not ready to accept that you are not over yor loss. At this time you are depressed and hurting I recomend you talk to someone.

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