i am obsessing about having a baby. how do i stop?

My husband and i talked brieflyabout kids and he knows how much i want another child but he keeps telling me we will talk about it later, but never do. He has three (ages 16,6,2)and i have one child (age 3) of my own.i love them all, but i want another of my own.Everytime i turn around pregnancy is on, tv, magazines, and all around me. everytime i see that i want to ask him when are we going to try but i am afraid he doesn't want to have more.i asked him how about around february,because that's my yearly checkup, still no answer. how can i stop thinking about it? this is driving me crazy. I try and make joke about how he is being stingy and i would probably be to old to have more; but he seems to be irritated about it. what do i do?

Answers:
This is something really important to you and you need to let your husband know. Its not worth fighting over but just choose a good time to talk to him and let him know how much you would love another child.

His feelings are important too and if he really doesnt want another find out why. It could be that he is worrying about finances. Men often do. Or maybe he feels he already has enough on his plate.

Really good communication is always the best way. Often men just arent good in this area, but it is up to us to continue trying to communicate and let them know it is important. Sometimes its not until we are in tears (as in crying) until our men realise we really need to talk.

Also being obesessed with something is not a nice feeling either is it? It feel as though you cant control it. Try to get on with other things in your life. Find a hobby, activity or sport that you love to do and use that to distract you from this obsession.

When it is meant to happen it will. I know our hormones often just go crazy for children. How about the many women out there that have been wanting children but cant conceive. It is important for us to remember how lucky we are and to be grateful that we have children. Try to be thankful for what you have and concentrate on living for now. This will also help to stop obsessing about having a baby.

All the best

have it from someone else :)

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