why is it that when you have your 2nd kids they are worse then your 1st 1?

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i have been thinking the same lately i think i felt a little guilty that no 2 did not have a 1 to 1 with me so when no 2 started crying for something that my no 1 had i used to persuade no 1 to let them have it BIG MISTAKE now no 2 thinks he can have what he wants

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becuz uasally your 2nd kid is bigger

Need for attention. My first one was my "bad" one.

because you are more lienient with them, you dont have that "first child" fear, they seem indestrcutable now, when the first baby couldnt smack himself in the face with a rattle without you taking it to the hospital.

just be alittle more strict with them. and shoe them you are the leader, the alpha male (or female)

i dunno i was a second kid i dunno wat my prob is lol
have a great day

Being a second child, I can say from experience, it's weird. I am worse, and it's not attention I crave :l Because it's an unwritten policy... the first is always the best, otherwise you wouldn't WANT any more and therefore we would cease to exist due to non procreation! It's all a conspiracy I tell you!

;-)

I have no idea but that is so true. It is a mystery...

so your have more than one kid lol

Okay, IF I understand this question, the answer is the studies on "birth order".

The first borns are almost always conservative.
The last borns are almost always more radical.

WHY?

Here's a typical scene at the dinnner table:
"What did you learn at school today first-born?"
"I learned long division-it was amazing! I didn't know you could just keep going like that."
How does the last-born compete with that when he's finger-painting? By putting straws in his nose and shouting "Look at ME - I'm a walrus!" He steals the attention for a second.
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BA in Psychology

I would guess it is because they don't get your undivided attention like your first child did. Plus you have less energy and patience when you have 2 kids. I don't have children but I am the oldest in my family and my parents say I was an angel and my little sister was SO much trouble. Your first kid has to work out everything by themselves. That includes how to get into trouble. The second one only has to watch their older sib. I know my youngest son is much more of a handful than the oldest, so you're not alone.

I think that it's because the second one might think that he's not geting to many attention so he acting up just to make you understand.

it's got to do with the older one... it turns into a competition whenever the older one turns out to be right in something and smarter/better than the younger one, the young one becomes jelous. It's quite often that it's like that but it may become easier once they get older and more mature.
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Personal experience... I have a little brat of a sister now myself.

Because if you had the "bad" one first, nobody would ever want more than one kid, and the population would start shrinking? man what a good question. I have 2 girls and they are complete opposites. My oldest is my angel who wants to please everyone and is very tender hearted. My youngest I swear is the spawn of satan, and the only one on her agenda is herself

I've started to think she's just my karma paying me back LOL

When you have your first one you have all this time to spend with them. The second one comes along and you don't have the same time because you have an older child to take care of as well as the baby. You don't put up with as much from the younger and you don't laugh at the same things because you have already been there and dealt with it. The little one is competing with the older to get more attention. The older one thinks you spend too much time with the baby. It is a never ending cycle. LOL
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Mom of 4: 15 year old daughter and 3 sons ages 4, 3, and 1. My second child is an angel compared to my first. Of course she's only 4 months. Already she sleeps, naps, and eats better. She's content to just play by herself. My first was just the opposite.

thats so true my brother is the second kid and hes a t+at. but as they get oldder they get better

gets worse hun the thirds wors than the second i think its because you enjoy the second more as your not as scared so you dont let them get away with as much either that or you have 2 to look after so you notice the behaviour more in the second good luck with it tho
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because your tired! wait till u have a 3rd!!

Theyre not worse than your first its just that you've been through all this before, and this child has never had your full attention/been an only child. You also seem to get a lot more famiily help with your first than your second. Just hang in there...this will sound crazy to you now but these are the best days of your life and if you calm down and step back a bit you'll have a great time

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