HELP!! How can I get my 3 yr. old son to listen and obey me?

I am having a VERY hard time to get my son to listen and do what he is told. Any advice will be GREATLY appreciated.

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Say what you mean and mean what you say. ALWAYS follow through. Be consistent.

Don't let him get away with any form of rebellion, or he will learn that he gains something from it.

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ask supernanny (being serious channnel 4 tv program) yell at him or her or spank

he is being a 3 year old.
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violence never works. Find a time out area and put him or her in it for 3mins plus one min for every year. then if they try to leave the area, put them back, it is very hard to deal with it i bet but keep trying and think about what it is that is wrong with the child. maybe something can be corrected easy that he or she cant commnicate

you need to show him who's the boss. he is NOT and right now probably thinks he is. people are so against spanking, but i got my rear end spanked and i'm a perfectly normal woman and i respect my parents. and i obeyed them, in fact they probably should have spanked me more. You should have been training him to listen to you from day one.
By 3 years old, you are going to have a hell of a time, but it can be done.
Consult a professional or a book.
Ask your doctor.

take away the thing he loves the best and get him to understand that he wont have it back until he starts listening While all kids are different, I found that with my youngest son, if I wanted him to do something, I could lower my voice almost to a whisper. He would be curious as to what I was saying, so he'd listen to every word. When I wanted him to pick up toys, or whatever, I'd almost whisper it, and he'd grin and whisper back "ok mommy". Anyway, like I said, all kids are different, but this worked for me the majority of the time.

think of punishments if he knows he can disobey and face no form of punishment then he owns you and will never listen. Start now while he's young. Not necessarily beating him but time outs no TV no friends over. Take something he values away for a week.

Reward good behaviour and ignore bad behaviour.

Bad behaviour is getting your attention, therefore you are reinforcing that behaviour. You need to ignore bad behaviour (or pretend to ignore that behaviour). In time your child will realise that to get your attention he must demonstrate good behaviour.
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PUNISHMENT Well i know im only 11 years old but i watch alot of Dr. Phil i think you should talk something away from him everytime he does something wrong The main thing is don't yell at him because it will just make things worse again im only 11 years old but i wacth Dr. Phil

well theres always time out or just sittin him down and talkin with him. I know he's only 3 but it could work. trust me thats what my parents did to my little brother when he was 3. hes 7 now and is still rotton so it may not always work. LOL

reverse psycology. or just the good old spank

Structure. Do the same thing EVERYTIME without fail. He is testing his boundaries with you and the more you give in the harder it will be to break him of this habit. Be strict (within reason, of course) and be consistent. He WILL figure it out... it's hard but it works. You have to be strict with him and follow through on any discipline. If he doesn't listen take away his toys or television privealages and follow through with it no matter how much of a fit he throws. Make a designated spot for time outs, sit him in a chair in the corner (facing the wall) and don't let him get out until you say its ok, if he doesn't listen sit him in his room for the time outs, but take out his toys and (if he has one) his TV - anything he finds entertaining. My cousin recently developed a points system for her son, when he's good he gets a sticker on a chart thats hanging on the wall and when he gets a certain amount of stickers he gets rewarded with a trip to someplace like Chuck E Cheese or the movies. When he disobeys his stickers get taken off and he gets something taken away (such as his video games or monster trucks), and he gets grounded. It seems to be working.

Time outs.

Holding him very tightly for a really long time, until you break his will.

If you must spank, do it immediately after the bad behavior, and hit the backs of his legs, not his butt. Blows to to buttocks are thought to be responsible for lower back pain later in life.

One of the things I used to do was pick up a favorite toy and then start speaking softly. I the child wants to hear you they have to stop. Also, be consistent on what he should do and how you reinforce it. Three year olds are just realizing that there are choices and one of them is that they don't have to do what they're told. Reinforcing through taking away tv/ video priveledges or a favorite toy will make it start to sink in that they have to obey to get the things they want.
Good luck!

hi you should start giving him time outs and if that don't work take his toys until he starts listening to u make sure u don't give in cause he is trying to see how far he can go Try taking things from him (toys, special treats, things he/she likes to do). Don't be afraid to shove your foot in an unplasant place. But above all YOU MUST BE FIRM AND NOT WAVER. YOU MUST BE CONSISTANT. If you don't do thost two things, you will be fighting an uphill battle... FOREVER

Two books I found helpful- Toddler Taming (i cant remember who wrote this but any good bookshop will have it) and A book called "Family matters" by Dr Phil Mc Graw.. I have a seven year old and he is a total handful at times.. another thing is, make them responsible, even if its for something like picking up the toys or helping you to cook the meal... I did that with my son cos he was a real picky eater, and if i let him chop up a leaf or two of lettuce or whatever, he would eat anything that was on his plate.. Also, dont be too hard on yourself...if they have us a manual on what was ahead of us when we got preggers, sure who would have any babies at all.. It gets easier, and there is no better job.. Good luck!

did your parent whip you? if so then whip him!!

I am no where near the age to have a child for myself so I do'nt have any personal experience but fomr what I've seen is: Do not use violence! That will only anger the child more causing him to fight back or it will set him into depression and possibly he could become afraid of you. Surely that's not what you want. So. When they're not listening, you come down to their level; you kneel down and speak to them not in a angry or firm tone but with a gentle tone. When he responds positively you reward him with praise or even treats.

You must be repeatitive. If you put him in a 'naughty corner' and he cheeks by moving or running away from the spot, keep putting him back until he stays there but do not say anything to him while he's screaming crying or yelling. Stay silent and be repeatitive.

Hope this helps. =)

u half to help him and your self speak each others la....
or pop him on the hand if he does not listen 2 u

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