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my son is 3 years old me him and my boyfriend and his 4 year old daughter have lived together now for about 8 months. my son used to listen so well to me and be so sweet but for the last 3 months he does nothing but cry and whine and yell an hit, he is constintly teasing my bfs daughter and yelling at her an trying to hit her, same thing with me i dont know what to do anymore im so frustrated. the 4 year old isnt inncoent either and she often encourages it but its still not right for him to act this way. ive tried sitting him in the corner it doesnt work, he jus plays if i send him to his room. ive tried to talk to him and it ends with a im sorry mommy and a kiss an he goes and does it again... is this just a normal stage of a 3 year old little boy? and how can i controll him better or make him stop?? advice? what works or doesnt work for you?

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as he is only three yrs old it may just be the sharing of 'mummy',you say you have all lived together for 8 months and if nothing has happened during that time to upset his normal routine,(apart from their arrival,of course) it would seem nothing major,,please do check all is well between your boyfriend and your son though!!! you may have to try to combat this as a family,,work as a team and share the rewarding good behavior and punishing the bad behavior,,for both children,,at three years old his views are simplified so it may just be about the fact you are not the only constant now,,especially if he sees you being affectionate with the four year old,this in itself is not wrong but if he is jealous he will misbehave,,share cuddles and try to provide a quiet stable atmosphere where bounderies are made clear,,you and your partner can use fun distraction technics to avoid taking bad behavior too far,,if he plays up use the same principal as you do now but take it in turns if possible to remove him from the room onto a time out step or similar,,he needs to see you and your partner are together and that there is no fairer side between you,,do make sure your son,and the daughter for that matter receive the same punishments and that after a punishment,,appologise to the other child or indeed adult for what they have done,,,,to keep the peace get them back on the playing track,,make their time together fun,,and put aside fun time between all of you too,,a walk,football,a picnic in the garden,it doesnt have to be expencive for the kids to enjoy the family,once you find out what works for your son and new daughter you will all be happier,if one of you works try to make a big deal out of the other parents return and try to avoid the 'wait till your dad gets home' as this just serves to establish that dad coming home is when punishments happen and they will avoid him just in case and not look forward to his or your return if it is yourself that works.have fun

when you send him to his room go behind him with a trash bag and start collecting toys. i have noticed it helps sometimes if they have things taken away that they want.

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