Why is my 4 year old son hitting, biting and pinching me?
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It is a phase but he has to understand that hitting it not ok. Spanking will only teach him that hitting is ok. My husband and I are using a star-reward system with our almost 4 year old son. He gets a star when he has a hit-free day. After 5 stars he gets to pick from activities that he enjoys like going to the park, go bowling or ride his bike. He is doing really well with it.
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its normal dont bothere..if not doing..then only the problm.ok
Becuse he is like u. ha ha This is semi normal for children his age. He likely will settle down.
I would try to reduce the amount of sugar he is getting and promote regular frequent meals to see if that would help.
It's not unheard of, it even has a name- tantrum. BUT it can easily get out of control. I say turn up the punishment and be sure to punish every time. If spanking doesn't work, try a reward system that can be taken away. so say he gets a treat every day, and if he acts up you drag him to the kitchen immediately and make him watch the dog eat it. give it a name that you can use to threaten with.
if that doesn't work, just put him up for adoption and put on your racy lingerie again. hehe
You have to get down to his eye level and "speak" to him and try not to issue "orders". I've been there, done that I can tell you that positive parenting really works. Try not to raise your voice as this will only antagonise and frustrate him more. Practise makes perfect. Good luck. obviously you allowed him from an early age to think it is okay to hit you...get a backbone and tell him that you donot like nor is it appropriate... don't be a doormat to your 4 year old because you will be when he's 24, 24,44,54,etc....break the cycle and punish him....no television, no outtings, restrict his goody intake... make him sit alone and think about what he does then after punishment ask him "are you sorry for hurting mommy and why are you sorry" allow him to understand what he's doing wrong because he may not know he's doing wrong....it is our jobs as parents to facilitate what acceptable and not acceptable
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Having his needs met is all the little angel knows. And you are the one he expects and rightly so, to answer his needs. I'm assuming conventional methods did not work, none the less, his needs will still take president over everything else, including your very own needs. Until he is old enough to fill his own needs he will rely on you.I believe what Doctors have always stated, which is children are not born with knowledge of biting and hitting, especially when it is the Mother on the receiving end. This is a learned behavior not an innate behavior. If this negative behavior can be learned, so to can a positive reinforcement behavior be adoptable. Leading by example seems to be where he learns best.
my son will be 4 in december and he just started doing the same thing. he has been doing all kinds of crazy things lately, like the other night he was supposed to be in bed and i notice his light was on so i go in and he was biting the corner of the wall in his room (it has chunks missing!) anyways i asked him "what were you thinking and he just looked up at me and says, i was thinking nothing! " hopefully it is just a phase. hopefully!Source(s):
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'i was thinking nothing' OMG how funny!!!
go to the daycare center unannounced. let the people there know that you do not tolerate this behavior at home and you EXPECT them to not accept it either. from ANYONE. if the other child cannot learn to behave he can be alone or not go to the daycare center. other children should not be subjected to this.
how did you do the time out? one minute per year old. no speaking, no moving away, no screaming. time starts when the child gets calm. make it last all day if that's what you need. let him know you will not go to work that day if that's what it takes. breath deep. he might be thinking you are punishing him by taking him to daycare with that kid who bites.
how did you spank? until he cried or until he wiggled out of your grip? not a good enough spanking. he just learned that he is in control of you not you in control of him. spank until he can't move or wiggle. when the breath starts that hiccup thing, STOP.
i don't spank, myself, but if you are going to 'go there' , then do it the right way.
at 4 years old, i agree with biting him back so he knows how much it hurts. or put his own arm in his mouth and make him bite himself.
why would you spank your son for hitting? You just answered you own question. Monkey see monkey do. If the school isnt dealing with the other child then you need to talk to the director. My preschool has kicked several kids out for behavior problems. My son was picking up on it, but we nipped it in the bud. If the school your son is in now wont deal with the other child then you need to find another school.
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