what is an effective way of discipling your child, when timeouts dont work anymore?????
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a little pat on the *** wont hurt. it always worked with my mother! lol
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Taking away Privileges like TV, Video Games..whatever is their favorite past time that is what you take away for a period of time, and the time is varied upon action that you are trying to correct.
When time out doesn't work, the kids sometimes need some spanking, but it has to be done with Love to the child and dislike to the act.
As a parent of many years I have ran across this problem more than once. One of the things that children require is structure. They must know what you expect of them at any given time. I have found that an effective way of discipling your child is to simply find out what they value most. By restricting access to these things and being adament about it, children begin to realize that you are serious when you talk to them and that if they do not comply there are ramifications that they wont like.
dont know i dont have a kid
I use the early to bedtime issue.. I start taking 15- 30 min off bedtime and they change their attitude quickly. my kids are 8 and 12..
a good old fashion SPANKING!!!!!!
Take something away from them, be firm and consistant.
If you spank them do it without any regrets.
Rather than punishment, think in terms of prevention. Figure out why the child is acting this way and address it. Is it a developmental stage, an unmet need, not enough sleep, hunger? Are your expectations age-appropriate?
Punishing may solve the problem for the short-term but what are you teaching in the long-term? Certainly you can spank but what does your child learn from that spanking? Might means right? It's okay for bigger people to hit smaller people?
If you have a specific dilemma and want to ask about it, I'm sure people can help you figure out ways to address it that don't contribute to an adversarial relationship with your child. Good luck. :)
I like lamamama's answer. I have 3 kids and each one is different in how to discipline. Every child must be individualized. I have found that TV is very bad for kids unless it has some teaching value. The less TV my kids have the more energy they expend outside. The same with video games. When my boys misbehave depending on the situation, I remove them from the situation at once, explain that I don't like what they are doing (never that they are bad and never shaming them). If they are doing something dangerous to themselves or others I spank them only on the bottom and this is only for very serious misbehavior. I redirect, or send them to bed. The thing my boys miss most, is taking their books away. And yes, I do take their books, when there's no tv and no video games as a norm in a home, kids actually begin to read, and when they read as much as mine do, taking their books for 1-2 days is not a bad thing :-)
It is called spanking!! Time outs are a joke!!! It dosen't work!!! You use spanking when needed! I spank my son after I have worned him.
Well, I believe spanking is wrong and you probably don't spank but here is something I learned in Early childhood education that might help.
Spanking leads to fear and avoidance. It gives children confusing messages and makes them think that using violence to solve problems is okay. It can introduce problems later on as they grow up for example bullying others, agressive behavior, criminal behaviors, stealing and domestic violence. Parents will spank out of their own anger and frustration because it makes them feel better. I believe it also makes the child become sneaky. It doesn't stop the unwanted behavior long term and children will do anything to avoid being hit. They aren't given a chance to learn from their mistakes, learn how to solve problems, use good judgement, control emotions, or feel confident and secure. Important factors needed as adults in life. You basically change who they are when you hit them. It is hard to justify the admonition "Don't hit!" while the parents are spanking the child for hitting. I get so tired of hearing "I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine." It is just a wimpy, uneducated, destructive way of parenting. Some people might believe that back in the old days, children were much better behaved because they were spanked and now kids are out of control these days because parents don't spank and let their kids run the show. Well, most kids who were spanked back then are the parents you see nowadays that have completely turned the opposite and show qualities of passive parenting. My children are never spanked and are happy, confident well behaved kids. I just educated myself on effective ways of discipline and it has payed off. I have worked in 5 daycares and the children that were aggressive, use hitting to get their way appeared negative and unhappy. I knew that most of their parents spanked them. Try taking priveledges away and give a warning. Say " If you hit your sister one more time, no T.V. for the day." And follow through. Take something away from your child that means alot to them. Also Supernanny has a book out and her show is really effective for parents. Good luck.
A good old spanking. But before you do explain why your spanking them, don't just go up and hit them.
taking away things ( PUNISHMENTS) and the good old fashion SPANKINGS!!!!
I dont agree with prevention becasue wehn they get older things wont be prevented! They will just happen!
DONT HIT THEM WHEN UR ANGERY!
redirect the child with a positive activity vs the negative activity....depending on how old they are offer choices, if they have behaved badly, ie stopping up the toliet, have them help you celan it up...if they hit a friend/sibling have them sit on a time out chair/mat for 1 min per year/life talking to the child about what they have done lets them know why its wrong to do, natural consequences are a great learning lesson and as parents we need to guide our children through their learning process teaching them is actually guiding them through their life... have clear boundaries and routines structure does great things for children helps them learn what is expected of them they no the limits of what they can nad cant do. spanking is cruel and often just release the parents anger and doesnt teach the child anything than 'if i do XXXXXX then my butt gets hit and I hurt'
I try to head off the problem before it starts. That doesn't usually work. I will spank my son and tell him what he did wrong. (he is only 16 months) I think a lot of the answer depends on the age of the child
Bust their a**! Timeouts work to an extent but when they are like only 1-2 it doesn't really work considering the fact that they don't exactly understand what timeout means but they do know that a pat on the heiny doesn't feel good. Also you should never wait and explain why you are spanking your child BEFORE you spank them because by the time you finish talking they've really forgotten why it is you're popping them in the first place...save the explanation for afterwards.
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Personal Experiences...mother of a 2 1/2 y/o
booty whoops & taking away priveleges, follow through also.
Time outs do not work! Neither to rewards or punishments for very long! They are only a way to control and shame your child and cause resentment! I would rather a child have self control rather me controlling them. Always let the punishment fit the crime (if they throw something take it away, if they hit their sister, they need to play somewhere away from her, if they paint the wall they need to clean it). In some cases when your child is doing something you do not approve of, take them gently by the hand to a place away from you (their room, the hallway) and say, "I don't not like the way you are acting (explain what they are doing that you do not like). I want you to stay here until you're ready to stop and then you come come back with me." The next time bad behavior starts, (it could be right away) take them by the hand to the same place you took them the first time and say, "You can come back when you're ready to stop." When they return say, "Thank you for listening to mommy. I appreciate your kind behavior."It will take several tries for your child to get the message. Be consistent and patient! Good luck!
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Preschool teacher
M.A. Child Development/Education
IF THE TIME OUT WILL NOT WORK THEN YOU TAKE ALL OF HER TOY AND WHAT EVER ELSE SHE HAS OUT OF HER ROOM AND PUT THEM INTO YOU CLOSET THEN SHE WILL KNOW WITCH ONE IS THE BOSS AND IT WILL BE YOU THE MOM THEN SHE MAY CLEAN UP HER ACT.AND YOU LET HER KNOW THAT SHE/HE IS NOT GOING TO GET THERE THINGS BACK UNTIL SHE BAHAVES. I DO THAT WITH MY DAUGHTER AND SHE CLEANS HER ACT UP REAL QUICK CAUSE SHE KNOWS THAT SHE WANTS HER TOY BACK. THAT WOULD BE THE BEST THING TO DO.
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