question about 2 year old daughter..........
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It is normal. I Have an 8 yr old daughter, and she did the same. My 4 year old son thinks his penis is the greatest toy in the world.
From the beginning I have been technical about the terms we use, and answer all questions honestly. I told my daughter each person was given a gift. Girls got vagina's so they can have babies, and boy were given penises so they can make them. when she asked how, I said it is complicated and i will tell her more at a later time. i read that children who use technical terms for private areas are more likely to be open with their parents about sex, and are more likely to not except inappropriate touching and tell someone about it.
i learned in my child exploration class that you should allow your child to touch them selves in private like in the bath tub because if you scold them they may become embarrassed or scared to be open about any problems. Simply tell her there is a time and a place.
my daughter feels comfortable enough to tell me her vagina itches or hurts, and your daughter will go through that too. my daughter gets reactions to bubble bath and some soaps, and if she hadn't been open it could have gotten worse.
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Check with your doctor and ask that he recommend a book.
All that you describe is normal and, if anything, indicates that you have a smart little girl. The only thing I would do is try and convey that talking about the "butt" and touching herself are things she should not do in front of people but only alone or with you. In fact, at her age, she has no concept of being separate from you quite yet. Just catch her when she does it in the presence of others and say no, not now, private. After a few times, she'll get it. Don't put a moral tone on, she's innocent. Goodness gracious you are freaking out over something that is normal.
She is just being a curious youngster and noticing differences. She is also learning that when she touches herself down there it feels good, now is the time to explain that is ok but also tell her its something you do in private like while your in your bedroom or in the bathtub. Then don't focus on this conversation anymore and don't let her see it troubles you if she says she wants to be a boy. All this is perfectly normal in a two year old.
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Wisdom of one that raised 2 kids and should be a grandma by now
Normal, Normal, Normal! Please don't worry, she is discovering her body and what feels good. She will not grow up and be a trans or a pervert; I'd bet on it. As far as the body parts, I taught my kids (6 & 4) the correct anatomical names: penis, vagina, etc. That's what they are....Good Luck! Well I have to say it is difficult to explain to a 2 yr old why boys are different but just try to make it as easy as you can for her to understand even if you have to use the old shovenistic ways that the boys have their parts becuase they work hard jobs or go any route that she will understand as hard as it is....As for touching herself it is very normal at that age they are just figuring out that there is feeling down there and sometimes they just want to see what happens when they touch it so dont be freaked out this is all normal and just because she says she wants to be a boy when she grows up doesnt mean anything it just means she sees different and wants to know what it is like
it's normal, my daughter is 2 and a half and touches herself when shes in the tub and when she runs around the house naked, i just tell her to stop touching her private and if she continues while in the tub, then i remove her from the tub and put a pull-up on her same goes if she runs around naked and wont stop touching herself then i put a pull-up on her! she hasn't asked me about boys parts yet, though cuz she hasn't seen what the boys private parts look like yet!
You tell what it is...a penis and only boys have it.Tell her what the parts she talking about are called. Then after you've told her 170 million times she'll get tired and move onto something else. She touches herself because it's hers and she can. If she does it in public or around other people just remove her hand and give her something else to play with. She's a child so everything is new. In order to obtain knowledge she has to explore and ask questions about everything. You're here to parent and guide her. Don't take this stuff too seriously, you'll be crazy and you'll make her crazy. this is all very normal - she is at an age where she is becoming aware of her own body and the differences - she is just exploring her body and trying to understand everything
Try to stay calm and know that it is normal at this age
Your daughter sounds very smart to notice and take an interest at 2. Don't ruin her curiosity. Tell her all she needs to know in a way a child would understand. Don't go into great detail, but there is no harm in what she is doing. I caught my 3 1/2 year old daughter about to stand over the toilet and 'wee like daddy does' the other day. I just laughed and told her that only boys can do it that way and girls must sit down. She said she wanted to be a boy so she can stand up and wee. This is harmless behavior and I didn't go to bed that night fretting that maybe when she is older, she will want a sex change or something. It's just natural. Please don't worry and encourage her. She only wants to learn. Totally normal for this age and be honest with her tell her what the parts are and tell her why boy and girl are different and use the correct term this will help lots
This is totally normal for a 2 year old. I have one, myself and have encountered the same thing. Be HONEST with her, use the proper names and dont ever make her feel ashamed of herself. Exploring her body is just a part of growing up...it's no different than her putting her fingers in her nose. She has found a new orafice and will explore. If she happens to "explore" while around others, gently distract her from doing it and let her know that now is not the time. She will get the hint. Dont be discouraged, you are doing a great job as a mom!
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