How many of you hate dealing with other parents?
Example: my baby was hugging an kissing my friends son, I could tell it annoyed her, she wanted me to stop the behavior. My child is not even two, she was just showing affection why should I punish her?
Diff. Example: a 2 yr old boy pushes my 13 month daughter down and she knocks her head on concrete she screams, the parents say nothing to me or there son
I am scared about dealing with parents in the future. I don't like confrontaion...and it seems kids are always doing something that could spark a fight between you and another parent. How do you deal?
Answers:
YES!!! I really do hate them most of the time. Astoundingly, many of my friends have become TERRIBLE parents.
One friend has a nervous breakdown at every get-together because her child a snotty "princess" who won't share. Both our kids are learning to share but she takes it personally.
Another friend talks negatively about her children IN FRONT OF THEM as if they are case studies. She calls them "this one" and "that one" rather than their names. Plus she has one very disturbed kid who she keeps yo-yo-ing on and off of ADD drugs and in and out of school. It breaks my heart.
Oh and then there's the friend who's youngest has had a runny nose for 1 1/2 years and they no longer even try to wipe his nose, then the encourage him to kiss my daughter. I don't think so!
Oh and the entire "princess" thing pisses me off. My daughter is special, unique, etc. However I do not fill her heard with princess, diva, ruler of the universe ideas. That's just programming your child to be a BRAT in my opinion.
Other Answers:
If parents are unwilling to step in to prevent their child from hurting another, then you will need to step in. Your child is the one at risk and it's your job to protect her. I would approach the children and tell the other child that he or she won't be allowed to play with your daughter until he or she learns not to push, hit, bite, etc. That way that child is still learning that the behavior is wrong without you directly telling that child "no". If the other parent doesn't like it, oh well. Your job is to protect your child.
On the other hand, if they don't like behavior your child is exhibiting, you could comment and then ask them. Your hugging example: you could tell the mom was annoyed so you could have approached it as..."Isn't it cute how children express their emotions whole heartedly? I like to encourage my daughter to express herself when it doesn't cause any harm.Do you think your son is comfortable with that? If not, I can stop her." That way you are respecting your friend's wishes, while still explaining your feelings. While her hugging is harmless, she will at some point need to learn to respect other's boundries. Yes, under the age of 2 she probably won't understand that, but over time she'll learn.
You do whatever you feel you need to do to protect your kid.
If it involves stepping in and telling other parents to get off their butts to keep their little kids from pushing your kid, so be it.
But then if other parents get annoyed at your kid for doing something like kissing their kid, you have to listen to them.
You have to grow a spine and realize that confrontation is part of life. You don't have to be an *** about anything, but people can see if you are going to be a doormat, and they will use you as so.
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