My wife says that there is nothing wrong wtih punishing a 5 year old boy by making him wear a ballet tutu?
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Poor kid. How scarred will he be in later life. Your wife is not a very nice person. This is not the way to punish or discipline a 5 year old. Why can't she just use the time out system like normal people. I think she probably got a good laugh out of seeing your poor son being ridiculed. You need to sit her down and gently explain that if this is the way she is going to continue mothering, then her son will most definitely grow up to hate her, and you will probably start to too!!!
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Poor fellow. But that sounds funny. Sorry!! Guess he learnt his lesson though
wow no he shouldnt that is extremly damaging stop her fore its to late i know what im talking about .....it causes confusion
ppl in Europe punish there kids that way, I think its cruel...
What sounds like she need help...mayby that is why the world is full of gays!That is sick! No child should be punished w/ humiliation. Any discipline given needs to be for and with love! Tell your wife that you don't want that to be his punishment because it punishes him by embarassing him, not by teaching him a lesson, and suggest something else like a time-out or something.
15 years from now.....bell tower.....scope rifle.....lots of wounded civilians.....11pm news.....and chances are, he'll still be wearing that tutu when the SWAT team takes the poor bloke down.
We should only emulate the British when it comes to comedy and tea time.
So.....how do they punish girls in England? Make them dress up like lumberjacks?
Well that explains a lot about Brittish men...I haven't ever heard of that as a punishment....I don't know that I would use it, I think a simple time out...or a spanking if the punishment deserves something that harsh.... The over all point of a punishment for a child to to get them to notice what they did doesn't work....and to make a change....I guess whatever works to get that result, I do not think this was the best choice, and I would not have let the neighbor gril see and laugh, that could do much more that punish, it could cause others problems that would continue...the girl may tease him about the dress, and he might hit her all over again... Can you say child abuse? I'm sorry, but humiliating a child is not discipline, it is abuse. When you tear down a child that way, you are not teaching him how to behave, your teaching him how much you don't care about him. I think that is absolutely horrible. My heart truly goes out to your son.
I don't agree.
What is that little boy learning from wearing a tutu?
This is just an embarrassment,a downer and a hit on his self-esteem/self-confidence.
This is NOT disciplining a child.
Its not easy to discipline a child. I agree, however the child needs to be explained why what he has done was wrong and be given a "common sense" punishment. It can be taking away something he likes for a period of time or a "spank" NOT a beat. Discipline has nothing to do with culture !
Discipline should be done out of love...not to embarrass or condescend a child.
Wow. My opinion, for what it's worth, is anything that associates punishment and humiliation with the female gender is a recipe for disaster. This young man is going to have a lot of trouble relating to women when he grows up if he associates them with a traumatic childhood memory. Do him and any of the women in his future a favor; Stop this right now. there is something very wrong with it. there are better ways to punish a child. try taking away their favorite toy or favorite thing to do. making him dress up in a dress as a from of punishment gives him only humiliation not a lesson in consequences.
i think that punishment is really humiliating and may later cause confusion for your son.
if you want a gay son then i guess its okay. if he does not turn gay maybe he'll grow up to be a disturbed and confused person!
If your wife truly loves your son, she should discipline him with care.
I think that is horrible! I have three boys and can't imagine even thinking up such a mean and hurtful thing. I hope you can intervene, if she keeps up she will ruin her relationship with her son...if she hasn't already. Its psychologically damaging. Stop!
Once you have taught him that wearing a tutu is punishment, I hope you don't plan to interest him in Ballet later in life.
Have you taken the first step toward teaching him that pink, "girly" things are to be scorned? If he learns this well, how will he treat his wife's and his daughter's interests?
Do you think that any form of humiliation is apt punishment. or do you think that this was closer to child abuse than it was to punishment?
I am a mother of 2 boys and one on the way, there is no way that I would punish any child with humiliation, it only serves to tear
down his self esteem. Whatever happened to time out? Put her in a diaper and give her a bottle and sit her outside for all the neighbors to see, and see how she feels, I bet she will stop.There is a right way and a wrong way to punish a child, and you shpuld always do it with love and by explaining what the child done and why he shouldn't have and then let him know that you still love him but that his behavior is unexceptable. You want this child to grow into a functional, respectable adult who believes in himself and has respect for others as well, and you can't reach that goal by tearing away his selfesteem and causing him to be emotionally disterbed.
I am sorry that your wife doesn't know any better...but something like that can scar your child, maybe not for life but your son may have serious "issues" while growing up. Try talking to your wife and introduce her to 'time-outs' or if your child doesn't respond to that, a good old fashioned spanking (NOT CHILD ABUSE...THE TUTU WAS ABUSE ENOUGH) just 2-4 hits on the butt with a hand or a belt (not hard enough to leave marks or anything) or before any of that try talking to him to let him know that hitting girls or people just because they did something you didn't like, is a good start (but then that would defeat the purpose of the spanking...because you'll be hitting him for something that you didn't like ;-) weird isn't it). And just a question...has your son done this before, because if you think about it why in the hell would your wife have the tutu, tights, & shoes in your house if she didn't plan on doing this to your son in the 1st place, did he hit her that day or was it in the past. If it was the past she's not comprehending the meaning of punishment (it is should be given as soon as the act happen if possible...you don't embarrass your child 3 days or a week from the time he hits someone you need to do it the same day it happens so your child will understand the consequences of his actions, because that is what punishment is for to learn a lesson that if you do wrong (a crime) will have to pay for it). So if that's the case and it happened the same day then why would she think dressing him like a girl would stop making him hit girls, there is no logic to that. A severe solution would to see if your wife wants to go with you or alone and get some parenting conseling to help learn how to disipline your son and future children correctly...
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Just a thought...a long thought but a thought no less. I hope this helps... That's f***in' psychological damage and the effects will only really show when he'll be a man. You should really tell your wife to quit that crap. She's playing with fire !!!!
If he learns his lesson but i don't think that is a proper punishment. Did your wife ever think about making him stand in a corner or sitting in time-out!!!
Your wife is nuts. That can cause severe psychological harm to your son.I think this form of punishment is borderline abusive. Please stop it immediately!!
The idea is to teach a child acceptable behavior vs. unacceptable. The idea should be to teach, not to punish.
A five year old can be talked to and put in time out.
We should treat children in the same way we should treat others....with repect and dignity.
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