help my daughter is four and a compulsive little liar lol, how can I stop this?

before it becomes a bigger problem in her adult life, I dont lie and neither does my husband, Im pretty sure she learned it from my husbands mother ( the grandma) and her child... because the grandmother is a compulsive liar...she lies about every little thing, and I have been catching my little girl up in lies, she does it because she knows she will get in trouble for things that she does, today I caught her with pop in our living room and shes cant have it in the living room because of all the spills, she told me first that it wasnt her then told me that she brung it in here for me... How do I correct this... I have talked to her many times about lying being wrong, have punished her with grounding but nothing seems to work. Does anyone know of any disciplinary tactics to keep her from doing this aside from spanking her? She has been spanked before but I prefer not to spank her over something thats not as major

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I went through this with my son and regrettably was not successful and he is now 20. So this what I would do differently: I would get involved in church. I would give her more attention. I would give positive reinforcement EVERY time I caught her telling the truth. Spankiing does not work. Keep modeling honesty in you and your husband's lives. Find the things that she holds dearest and take those away when caught in a lie. Do not give back until she tells 4 truths. And they have to be meaningful. Try to limit her time with the negative influences in her life. Stay on top of it. It will require diligence on your part but it will pay off in the end. I would also consider counseling. Something is making her do this. I think if I had done the above things with my son, I wouldn't be fighting the battle at this age. My thoughts will be with you. Good luck!

Lie to her and show her how it feels to be lied to. Tell her you're going to take her to the park and then out for lunch. Tell her after lunch you're going to the mall to get her a new toy and then out for ice-cream. She'll be extremely excited and then when you get in the car you can say "Guess what? We're not going!" Say to her "See, it doesn't feel good to be lied to does it?" and I guarantee she'll stop.

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help my daughter is four and a compulsive little liar lol, how can I stop this?

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