How do I get my 21-month old to stop hitting/kicking... things at my 12-week old?
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Well, first of all, your daughter is realizing that she is not the "baby" anymore. She doesnt understand that its not all about her and that there is someone else that needs you now too. Try having her help you with the baby. As in feeding her, giving the baby a bath, changing and throwing away the diapers, etc.. When she does these things with you, praise her for helping and what a great "big sister" she is. This will show her that you still love her too and that she is doing something positive and she wont feel so left out and feel like your devoting all your time to your new little one. This way, you can spend more time with her while you are spending time with your 12 week old. I hope this helps you. Good luck to you and God bless your little ones.
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i would consult the childs doctor. they will know what to do.
Ask her to help you out with the baby, simple things like brushing the babies hair. She might feel left out, and wants to help. Even though she's only 21 mths, she is probably quite smart for her age. Just keep telling him/her to stop and if he/she wont punish them.
You need to get her more involved with the baby, she is acting out in jealousy. you have to realize, she is not not your baby anymore, or at least that is the way she sees it.
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well show her its wrong that since she's older she's suppost to protect the baby not hurt it, tell her that it hurts the baby when she does that and let her help u out with the baby maybe it will her change her attitude towards the new baby Give her a time out, and if that doesn't work, spank her.
It is very common for children to be jealous and mean to the newborn. She was the center of your world and now she has to share mommy. It's going to take some getting used to. It's great that you're taking time with just her everyday. This will help her realize that mommy loves her too. When the baby is sleeping, read her a story, do an art project (make a Froot Loop necklace), and things that show she is the "big girl." She can help with the baby...getting a diaper, let her pick out baby's outfit...) Tell her that she is so lucky because she is a big sister! You might even find her a "I'm a big sister t-shirt." Tell her that she can do so much more than a baby because she is older (depending on her language skills, but she should definitely hear this when she's older). When she hurts the baby say "Do not hit the baby. That hurts (in a firm voice), gently take her by the hand to a designated area of your choice away from the baby and say "Come back with mommy when you are ready to be nice to the baby." She won't like the feeling of being shut out. It may take several tries for her to understand. If she keeps getting messages like these, she should start to feel more confident and kind in her new world. Be patient and consistent! Good luck!
At 21 months old she can do small things like fetching the baby's diaper or wipes. BUT she must know that hitting her little sister/brother will not be tolerated. Let her know that the baby is her very own little sister and NEEDS her big sister to protect and love her. How lucky for you they are so close in age!there is 14 months between my two daughters when my youngest was born my eldest kept hitting her when i was out of the room and then come and tell me what she had done this was only to get my attention even though it was for bad behaviour it was some form of attention from me.What i learnt to do and really worked for me was to ignore what she had done dont even acknowledge the bad behaviour dont speak to your oldest pick the baby up and take them into another room with you. your daughter will soon realise that she is not getting your attention by throwing things at the baby the baby is and not her. maybe give it a try i think it finally sunk in with my eldest after three days and she never did it again good luck things get better ,honest. You need to be sure to set aside "special time" just for you and your older daughter. When your new baby is asleep, spend some quality time with her watching Dora or finger painting. She may be hitting because 1. new baby doesnt understand her. 2. She has to share 3. she is jealous.
My son is 23 month's old and he has a major hitting problem. When he hits me, I do not yell, but I tell him very stearnly "do not hit mommy". you have to tell her "do not hit _Sister's name_". You can also check with a doctor, or try the following website:
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www.babycenter.com Ok best thing to do is not to shout at her, because she already feels that the baby has taken you from her, so don't make it worse by shouting or punishing her.
Explain to her that she wouldn't like someone else to hit/kick or throw things at her, and that if someone does this to her than that person is mean & she doesn't want to be mean right.
also try to involve her with the baby, let her help u when you change the baby's diaper like please get me the baby powder or the wipes.
also at bath time let her pass you things, the sahmpoo, the towel.
at that age the children are very helpful & that way she will feel closer to the baby.
also tell her what a great big sister she is and how lucky the baby is to have her for a big sister.
when the baby smiles tell her see the baby loves you it smiles every time you are near. encourage her to love & care for the new baby.
explain to her that babies are fragile & that you can hurt the baby if you are not careful.
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