my 6 year old son is.....?

my 6 yr old boy currently my 3rd out of 5 kids throws fits when at the mall and the bathroom he screams and the men in the bathroom looked at me and smiled trying to keep their laughs in....he is embarrsing and im not the soft dad type i dont say awww the baby wet the bed come here...i dont say that i say clean this mess up it stinks then i grab the kid and take him to another room......what should i do to stop this i've tried everything from spanking to time-outs at the mall where everybody will see him my wife doesnt spank the kids but i do....what should i do about the boy? my wife says he might be confused in the bathroom becoz so many ppl are watching him in line to the stall help!!

Answers:
tough one.

At 6 he is old enough to know whats ok and whats not so maybe its worth trying a reward system.
I've tried the stars thing but found my son lost interest so I sat him down and asked him what he wanted....of course it was lollies and toys....we started with something small that he could earn in a day then worked it up to earning it over a week then something bigger he earnt over a month,
He also liked the idea of buying it himself so every time he did the right thing we put money in the jar ... the more often he did the right thing the faster the money built up and once it got to be enough so he could buy the thing he wanted we took him to get it. After the first time he decided the second thing he wanted was a wallet to put all his money in.

If he did the wrong thing we didnt take money away but we would make sure he understood that it was now gonna take longer to get what he wanted...make him wait that extra day.

Pick your fights too...if he wants to pee in the privacy of a cubical let him. To avoid lines I usually take my kids in the disabled loo. lines only increase the risk that we wont make it before they have an accident. I've only ever had one person complain about it and once I pointed out that kids cant always hold they got over it.

Also (i will shut up in a sec) get him to pee at home before you go to the store. Put your foot down and refuse to leave til he goes.
at first it will take awhile but he will get the picture eventually you just have to be consistant.

good luck....by the way..i spank too

A child psychologist would be a good start

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