potty training and baby's momma ...?

My future stepson is two, and I think that he is ready to potty train. He keeps his diaper dry during naps and for more than two hours during the day, he can follow simple commands, knows when he needs to be changed--oh and he also says 'pee pee' when he has to go, does it in his diaper, and then goes and gets a new one.
The only problem is that my fiance and I only have him every friday and every other weekend, and his mother refuses to potty train him until after they move. But she won't do it!! I understand that she's his mother, but I'm marrying his father, and he agrees with me. Sometimes, he (the two year old) will even go and sit on his potty. But unless the routine is kept up by her during the week, he won't learn. He has been in between houses since he was born, and I don't want to make this any more difficult on him. Should I just wait until SHE is ready (I guess to her it doens't matter if HE is) or should I have him go on the potty at our house anyway?

Answers:
I think you are between a rock and a hard place.

If it were me, I would go ahead and use the potty when he is at my house and help him learn what and when to do things. If he forgets or doesn't do it once in awhile, don't make a big deal of it since it isn't being reenforced at home the rest of the week.

You don't have to tell mommy that he's doing okay at your place, why make waves if it isn't necessary. At least if he is ready, then you are helping him when you can and when it comes time for her to do her part it will be easier for her. Of course she will take all the credit but you and I will know better.

Good luck.

Sorry, but that's for the two of them to decide and agree on. You can't potty train a child part-time.

Life changes can cause him to digress. Especially a move and/or a new step-parent.

you do what is right for you at your home
you obviously care enough about him to put the effort into training him and encouraging him
its great that you did consult with the mother about it... unfortunately it seemsa bit too hard for her
keeo doing what you are doing and enjoy it when he tells everyone you taught him how to go...
keep encouraging him becasue he seems like he is ready...
good luck

Have him go potty at ya'll house but don't thrrow it in her face. If he's ready for routine then show the child and if he picks up on it then thumbs up if not just wait till he's ready. Baby Momma is always gonna disagree with dad because she thinks its coming out of the fiance's mouth. Its their child let her make her decisions at her house and let dad make his decisions at his house you just be there to enforce the decision made by dad. If the child is truly ready then it will carry on to mom house as well. Start by buying the child real underwear and sending him back to mom with them on when he says he have to go potty she'll be more than happy to bring him rather than clean up the mess. So allow the child for now to go when he wants and when all three parents are on the same page strictly enforce the process.

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