help with my son?
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I have 4 children, 3 of them boys. they are teens+ now.
one of my sons was really destructive, although his destructiveness was seldom aimed at his own belongings.
and some of the people are saying your son has anger issues but i do not agree mainly because he thinks it is funny.
you will probably think i am nuts but this works better than any form of punishment i ever tried with any of my kids.
tear up something of his and when he gets upset laugh, then point out to him that the way he is feeling is exactly how he makes mommy feel when he tears up your stuff. you can also fake him out like tell him if he does "it" again you will throw away his favorite toy then follow through, just hide the toy where he won't find it, but tell him if he will quit tearing things up, you will get him another one, and when he stops surprise him with the real one, if he knows it's his old one be creative about how you got it back, hes four they love adventure stories. also at four hes pushing your buttons. you say he is one step ahead of you, you have to be one step ahead of him, if you catch him in the act, join him, that will shock him.or tell him he has to clean it up and if he won't, take something away from him that he really likes.
spanking usually doesn't work, i know from experience, nor does time out or standing them in a corner.
you could even go as far as puting hook locks on the closets out of his reach.
as far as dumping his cereal don't let him have it anymore, if he cries let him, but explain to him he can't have it anymore until he promises he won't throw it around.
and if all else fails just sit down on the floor and cry, little boys love thier mommies more than anyone or anything else, and when they see mommy crying it gets their undevided attention, take that opportunity to tell him why you are crying. he will think twice before he does it again. just make sure you always notice when he does things right, just like you notice when he does things wrong.
just be patient, you will be okay, it does get better.
Only one thing you can do. WHOOP HIS BUTT! Thats the problem wit kids nowadays...parents wont spank them. You'll be doing him a favor, believe me.
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