Stay at Home Mom's: How many of you have 3 year old boys that still are not even close to being potty trained?

My son will be 3 on Thurs. And he is not even intersted in potty training. He will not pull down his shorts. He will not tell me when he wants to go potty. Hubby has shown him what to do( standing up and sitting) and he is just not intersted. He is not a big talker. He only talks when he wants to, which is not a lot. My Mother in Law tells me that I should throw him in Daycare so that they will teach him to go potty and to talk better. I don't feel I need to spend that kind of money to do that. He would rather be with my husband & I then be with other kids. I take him to the park and to playgroups and he wants to be with me. I know he needs to be in pre-school but, there isn't a preschool here that will take a child that is not potty trained. I do want to get him potty trained, but I don't wait to push him. I don't believe in using candy as an award for going potty. Any ideas or suggestions? I have bought him big boy undies and he will just pee through them.

Answers:
First of all, why can only stay at home mom's answer this? (I'm not one by the way). Second of all, you can't push kids to potty train, you just can't. It will only cause problems. You need to just start talking about him using the potty when you are changing his diaper. Have his dad show him how it's done (most little boys love doing things like dad does). Also, no, he's not supposed to be in preschool at this age. They should start preschool when they are 4. Preschool is just a fancy day care anyway and hardly anyone I know (including me) ever went to preschool. It's a fancy daycare with a few minutes of learning and quite frankly he could learn more from spending the day with you. Don't push him though on the potty training, just start talking about it and when he shows interest have him try it. If he starts to pull away from it though--stop! Don't ever push him if he starts using it but then quits. Just be patient! If you have any more questions, feel free to contact me. Good luck and God bless.

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Mine was way older than 3 when he finally got it! Hang in there and enjoy the time you have with your son.

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