How do you tell a 3 year old that thier older step sibling is moving away to her moms house?
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At three, there is not much he will understand. I would tell him that sissy is moving away to finish school and she will call and visit when she can. Encourage him to draw pictures for her and you will mail them to her. I would not go into it any farther than that because you don't want to confuse him.
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I don't think that you have to explain to him everything now. I would just tell him that she went to live with her other mommy and when he asks why she has two mommys. Just tell him that some people are special and have 2 mommy's or daddy's and when he gets older he'll understand. It'll be too confusing for him to explain step siblings at his age I believe. I would think at 5 he would understand....just picturing my 5 year old nephew if he was in that situation he would be old enough to understand.
kids know more than you think expecially at a younge age just sit him down and tell him that she wants to go live with her real mommy becasue they have different mommys and explain that you r his real mommy but not hers have her reassert that she loves him and will come back to see him to play and let him know that he and her have the same daddy that their daddy is both of them's real daddy he will be hurt cause he might think she is going away because of him this is why i say make sure she tells him she loves him also make sure you have her renforce that she isnt leaving because of yu as well she just wants to go see her mommy now this should help ease some of his pain ither way he will feel hurt and he migt act out for a few days because of this it might even be slightly tramtic for him so let him know he is loved and excuse the acting out it will pass Tell him his sister has her own Mom (just like he has his own -- you) and her Mom misses her very much. So, she's going to live with her. Tell him he can still see his sister because she will come back to visit, but, she will stay with her own Mom because it's nice for kids to stay with their own mom. Say how glad you are that he is going to stay with you and hug him. Say it in a very casual as a matter of fact way. I don't even think he would question abou dad. If he does, just say there is only one dad. You don't need to go into detail.
Always be completely honest, even with the youngest children. If you tell half truths, lies or for any reason dance around the truth, their imaginations fill in the gaps with information that is inaccurate, and scary to them.
If they catch you in a lie they won't trust you.
Don't complicate it with all the rest of the info you shared. Going to college is completely normal and nothing to get upset about.
Be calm and matter of fact.
Hope this helps
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