I have a 28 month old and a 2 month old, just wondering if it gets easier?

My 28 month old is going through his "terrible twos" and my 2 month old is, well only 2 months old. I'm breastfeeding the baby, my older child deals with it well. The 2 month old is up every 2 hours at night and my 2 year old is waking up once a night to be held, because of a bad dreams?(not sure and doesnt say what woke him). Try to spend time with the 2 year old when the baby is sleeping. The 2 year old doesn't nap anymore but I do put him in his room for quiet time. Just trying to figure out from other parents when to put in time to do housework, pay bills, take a shower, etc. By the end of the day I'm too exhausted to do things when the boys are sleeping. I don't have anyone to help me or give me a break. Grandparents all work full time and so does my husband. Plus I go back to work in a couple of weeks (just 2 nights a week for 6 hrs each) Just looking for ways other moms/dads handle it.

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I had my 2 boys at the same ages....it was tough. They are 4 and 6 now and it's definately a bit easier. The thing is once they get older, the fighting starts. My 2 year old also stopped napping as soon as baby came along, so I did not get much rest. What I did, was insist that my husband take 2 nights a week of baby duty, I understand that they work too, but 2 nights won't kill him, if you can do it everynight, he can surely handle 2. Start pumping breast milk now, and freeze it for when hubby gets up to tend to baby. You will find that even with just 2 nights of decent sleep, you will feel much better, physically and emotionally. The house is bound to be a disaster, and it's acceptable. You have 2 babies, no time for full cleanings, just do what you can...again if hubby doesn't like it, hand him the mop and broom and tell him to have a go at it....Now, I did use the TV, to entertain my 2 yr old, while I was doing some household chores, there are plenty of non offensive, healthy shows on for that age, PBS is great, and also Noggin if you get that. The shows are very educational and fun for them, I'm not saying stick him in front of the TV for hours, but certainly 30 minutes while you do other things is not unhealthy....good luck, just keep in mind it will get easier, in about a year, things will settle down, you can do it, and asking for help is not a sign of an unfit mom, it's just needed

It gets easier. They grow up and begin to do things for themselves, which makes it easier on you. They become more independent and do not need you as much. I know it sounds kinda depressing 'cause u want be needed as much, but it does give u more time for you. Hang in there.

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