I need help please, I dont know what to do?

Ok well my son who is 4, he has beenhaving a really hard time listening to me and, being really mean and I guess you would say careless, well I have a cat and he stepped on him with one foot and lifted the other one up and had all his weight on my cat.. What do you think might be wrong with him, is there something I shouldbe doing better. Iam so worried about him, not only cause he is acting out and he could hurt himself but also other living thigs, and he does not take care of his things. Should I not exspect that much from a 4 year old or what ? Im worried about him your opinions greatly appreciated.. TY

Answers:
The thing with the cat - totally normal. They don't feel pain when they do it - and don't understand that the cat *does* feel pain. So you sit down with him and calmly explain that anything breathing can feel pain and that we need to not hurt living things.

We have to teach them to take care of their things. Over and over again. They are really just learning the more intricate parts of interacting with people and things and learning consequences

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When he does something that isn't appropriate, you need to sit him down and talk to him about what he's done wrong, if that doesn't work, he needs to have a NAUGHTY CORNER or soemwhere where he can be alone for 4 minutes...even if he yells and screams, keep it up, don't give up, you are the parent, and let him know that....
I'm sorry if he was mine and all this didn't work, try physical punishment, a good old fashioned spanking doesn't hurt once in a while...

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