having trouble with potty training....help!!?

My daughter will be 3 next month & should be starting head start this yr...well I have been potty training her for about 5 months now, she was doing good for about 2 months & for the past 3 months she has gotten stubburn, wont listen & throws a fit when i want her to go potty on the toilet & she wont use the potty chair(s), i bribed her with popcicles the first time & it worked for 2 months, but all she wants anymore are pocicles, a sticker chart wont work cuz i dont feel like listening to her screaming fits cuz she can't have her own way, candy is a no-no. lately i just ask her if she has to go potty & she always says no or if she wants a popcicle i tell her she has to go potty in the toilet first & she says no & pouts, she says she poops, when she didn't & she knows the difference between poop & pee! she has undies butt she poops in them everytime! help i want her potty trained by her 3rd birthday which is in 1 month from today! shes a quick learner!!! theres more info.....

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She knows you really want her trained and so she is refusing. It is something only she can control and she has found power controlling her bathroom needs. You learned the hard way about using rewards! They never work for very long.

Let it go for a few days. Get her a step stool for the adult toilet. Children like to use things that are real. Have her pick out some "big girl" underwear and put her in clothing that she can easily take on and off without help. When you see her doing the "potty dance" say "It looks like you need to use the bathroom." Give it no more attention then that. If she soils herself say "It looks like you need to change." She can remove the soiled clothing, rinse them out, put them in the laundry, clean any wet area, wipe, and put on clean clothing. Don't help her! She will soon learn it is much easier to use the bathroom. Let the babysitter know this is how you want her to act as well.

Help her to feel powerful in positive ways. Say things like "You did that by yourself! You can jump so high! Look how many colors you used on your picture!" These are intrinsic rather than extrinsic ("Good job," stickers, candy) rewards or motivators and work well! She will begin to feel more powerful and confident. Good luck!

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