Why is my 1 year old going through this totally weird stage? He won't let me go anywhere without him. He cries


Why is my 1 year old going through this totally weird stage? He won't let me go anywhere without him. He cries hysterically even if he can see me and his little gate is up. What should I do?He fusses when I tell him "no" He never used to be like this! He was always a wonderful little man but now he's turning into a demon baby lol. Help!!!

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Just a growing stage. Be glad he is bonded to you. Of course he fusses when you tell him "no". You are interfering with his wants. Do you like it when people tell you "no"? Kids are going to "push the limits" to see how far they can go and still get "away" with stuff. You have to be firm and let him know his boundaries are set and you are not going to "give in". We have too many brats in this world because of parents who are unwilling to be consistent or believe the lie that they cannot discipline their kids or it will cause them to go into counseling. I've had to teach many of these kids and it is sad to see so many of them labeled ADD or hyper active when all they need is some good old fashioned, consistent discipline.

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Separation anxiety. You have to continue to leave him. If you stay when he cried, he will continue to cry each time. Let him learn crying does not mean mommy is staying.

It is the age. He does not want to be seperated from his mom. My son use to do that, and by the time I got in my car, he was alreadt done crying. It will take some time. Each time it gets easier. Now my son can't get me out the door fast enough. He is 6 now Normal!They all do that! You need to leave him with a sitter or grandparent- let him see you are coming back to get him! All kids do this! Good Luck! I know it is not easy- I have 4 of them! They can break your heart! bye --Be Blessed!


At about one year of age (give or take, depending on the child), babies figure out that they are separate people from their Mom. Now its freaking him out. Most of the time, separation from Mom at that point causes anxiety until they figure out that Mom always comes back (object permanency). Playing peekaboo helps, hiding toys under a baby blanket and then revealing them (ta da) can also help. This is just a stage and believe me when I say, just wait 12 years and he'll pretend he won't know you in the Mall. Seriously, this should work itself out in 3 to 6 months. Talk to his Doctor if it doesn't get better after that.
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Many, many, baby books read.

As bad as it sounds, it's normal! It's called seperation anxioty and every kid goes through it. Depending on the child some have it mildly and some are really bad. Get tough and tune it out or you will have to put up with it for a long long long time. Practice with this, give him a kiss and tell him (look into his face) Mommy will be right back! and go (to your room, bathroom, kitchen) anywhere he cant see you. Everytime you do this come back and then do it again after awhile. He will get used to you being out of sight and he will know you will be back. Make the times you leave longer and longer, have a friend or reletive watch him when you go out, even if its only around the block, then come back and give him hugs and kisses. Soon you will have the child you used to have.
I have a 3 yr old that does it, but 3 seconds after I leave she forgets to cry and starts having fun with the other kids in the room at daycare. Its mostly dramatics for me, a big show!! Good luck and remember...practice! It's definitely separation anxiety. It got worse for me now that my son is 18 months. What I do to chill him out is get up earlier than he usually does. Greet him with a smile as soon as his eyes open, change him, feed him breakfast, talk to him, play with him... just be like his shadow for a few days. My son got more Mami time than usual so when he gets too fussy, it's because he wants alone time. Explore with him what entertains him for the longest periods of time, like a certain toy or book and inch away ever so often until he doesn't even cry when you walk away for a few minutes. Maybe he doen't like your routine but can't figure out a way to come up with his own. Help him find his comforts. Good luck!!!



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