why is it that kids think they can run to the other parent when one tells her no?
and vice versa...
it makes me crazy, and i don't know how to get her to knock it off.
she's only 3, she should be a little angel...
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Both parents need to learn to say no!!!
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when you know a bussiness is taking money from you and you question it do you take the first no or do you search for a yes
never take no for an answer This is a problem that usually starts when the parents are having communication problems with eachother, or when one parent seems to spoil the child more than the other. Communicate with one another and get to the bottom of this, before it is too late! You don't need your angel to grow up being the devil in a pretty pink dress!
shes just testing waters. just make sure that you and her dad always give her the same answer and eventually she will get the point.
you and your spouse need to have a talk one or the other must be giving in sometimesWell what happens when she goes to her daddy? does he let her get her way? If so then thats the problem. All children try it just to test there boundaries. Me and my husband have the same universal answer "What did your mommy/daddy say?" That usually helps but he still does it he is 2 1/2 I have friends that used to live off of knowing which parent to ask which thing so it doesn't stop at 3 when there teenages it will only be worst! So just try to be consistant between the 2 of you is the best advice I can give you! Good Luck Kids are impatient, and when they have tweo parents they think they have two people who could say yes to them. You need to teach her that when you say no and mean no. I did it too when I was a wee tot!
It is hard at that age but she thinks that if one says no the other may say yes. I think most kids try that. Let them know at the beginning that mommy and daddy both agree with the answer of either no or yes. Also you and your husband has toknow what is okay or not okay. Stay firm with what the other says that way it doesn't send mixed messages.
Normally kids run to the other parent because the parents play good cop bad cop. My mom was always the one to put her foot down and my dad was always the one who let things slide. I was a pain when I was three...but I turned out just fine.Source(s):
my own experience as a kid...because i am one...
You need to talk about this with your husband and you both need to come to an agreement to check with the other each other before telling her ,YES, to anything.That way she will realize that she can't play you two against the other and she will stop. She is a angel she just has a moment once in awhile , they all do.And let her know it's ok for her to get mad at you because you still love her no matter what and when she wants to talk you will be waiting. LOL im going through this with my daughter now and she's 2 and a half (33 months). lately everytime i tell her NO, she runs to her daddy or vise versa! WE both just keep telling her NO, i guess it's a stage they go through like they are testing mommy and daddy to see which one breaks down first and gives in! WE as parents just have to stick together and gain up on your kids, show them whose boss!
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good luck!
You can't expect kids at that age to always be patient and not get what they ask for. They will think if one parent says no, the other one will say yes, and get it for them. You should sit her down and explain that when one of you say no, the other one says no as well.
Children do that because they know itis how they can get their way. I used to do it alot too. One way to break it is if she starts throwing a temper tantrum just let her sit there and continue to scream. Once she sees that you are not going to give her any attention or change your mind she'll stop.Kids are always testing you and your boundaries.
They never take no for an answer and especially if they have found out by past actions that NO doesn't always mean no.
For me i had an agreement with my hubby that if i'm teaching the child he have to stand aside and when he discipline i keep quiet... I have a 5 year old daughter and a 2 year old son, and believe me you are not alone, they all try this tactic once in awhile, and if my memory serves me correctly, I did the same thing even as a teenager. The trick is to let them know they are not getting by with it. Make sure you and your husband are both on the same page. If my husband is home and I suspect they have already asked him about something, I always asked my child, Have you already asked your father? My kids always seem to be honest about this, and if he has already told them no. My response is the same every time. If daddy has already answered you then why are you asking me? and I quickly follow with the same answer he has. Don't get me wrong they have fooled both of us and one time or another, but once we have figured it out, we never let them get away with it. Consisitency is key.
It's awful isn't it?!?! My 3 year old does the same thing. Kids just don't want to accept "no" as an answer. The rule in our house is if one parent says No, it means both parents have said No. If my husband or I have heard her ask the other for something and then she comes to the other one of us to ask again, we just say, "What did your Mommy/Daddy just tell you?" She knows by now that she can't get away with it and will just give up, usually. Got to give them credit for trying, Hahahaha! Also, my mom forgets this rule sometimes, most times, and my daughter knows this and will con her into getting what she wants, it drives me crazy!! Just be consistent and don't give in. Good luck!
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