2 year old w/ terrible tantrums and doesn't listen to "no". HELP!?

My son is about to turn 2 in a couple of months, and we have have a terrible time with his tantrums. Granted grandma doesn't help.(She's the one who's made him so spoiled!) Everytime he doesn't get his way, or can't be attatched to grandma's hip, he flings himself around, and screams like he's being beaten. He also doesn't even comprehend the word "no". We've tried time outs, spanking,calmly telling him "no, don't do that" and slapping his hands. Nothing has worked. We are absolutly out of ideas. The fits I'm sure we can work through, but not listening when we say "no" is getting out of hand.

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I have a 2 year old also and he use to be the exact same way.....and we were told that 2 yr olds have a hard time changing activities when you just pop them up. I have tried giving my son a 10 minute notice, 5 min. notice, then a 2 min. notice when I get ready for him to do something else. This way your not just commanding him to drop play time at an instant. This way they are aware of what will happen and they are not in the dark about what is going on. Just try it when you get supper almost ready, or ready to leave to go somewhere, or take a bath or go to bed....give them notices that and make sure they understand and keep telling them as it gets closer to that time. Then let them know of any awards or give them praises when they obey you. Use positive re-inforcement...it worked for us and the tantrums have decreased.
You are going to have to let them know that grandma is not going to save them from everything and ask her to help out by doing the same routine. If they start to throw a tantrum I would direct them into a corner and have them do a time-out until the tantrum stops. Regardless of the time or if you have to leave, the time-out continues when you get home. If time-out doesn't work then try taking away a favorite toy/activity/tv/whatever gets them to cooperate. When they listen and obey give them their toy back as an award. When you say "NO" to your child, get down to their eye level and make sure they see the seriousness in your eyes and voice. Otherwise, they think its a game and that your aren't serious. Follow through with punishments. Don't threaten them with a spanking and not do it. THEY WLL TEST YOU!!! if you be consistant with a routine and eventually it will work out. Good Luck and stay strong, you are the PARENT!

Ingore tantrums. He isn't throwing the tantrums to get what he wants, he's doing it to get attention. Everytime you talk to him or interact with him while he's throwing a tantrum you are giving in to him. Just walk away and don't say anything and eventually he'll realize that tantrums and screaming will get him nothing.

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2 year old w/ terrible tantrums and doesn't listen to "no". HELP!?

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