My daughter will be 3 the end of June..I can not get her potty trained...HELP!...

I try to put her on the toilet like every 15-20 mins but she has never went in the toilet..I am getting very frustrated..She is wearing pull ups..

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Try making it fun for her! With my daughter, at first we set the timer for every 15-20 min. and when the timer went off, we got to where we'd jump up and down and yell "It's POTTY TIME! Wooohooo!!" After the first day, anytime she heard a timer ( and she still does it 2 months later) she yells "Potty time!" and runs into the bathroom! In the bathroom, we have a potty chart. At first, to help her build confidence from ANY success, I'd give her a star on her chart whether she actually went potty or not, she'd get a star. After a while, she became conditioned to sitting on the potty, and started gaining control over that sphincter muscle (the muscle that has to relax so pee comes out, and tightens to keep from peeing) we started making a big deal when her pull up was dry AND she went potty on the potty.When her star chart was full, she'd get a prize. ( a doll she had been wanting, a ball...whatever.) After awhile, stars weren't a motivator anymore, so I found that a lifesaver candy broken into tiny pieces so she got a "piece of candy" if she was dry and went on the potty was what began working for her again. Sometimes, you have to change up the motivation a bit to keep them interested.

A few things I also learned was to make sure your "potty language" is consistent with everyone that she is around. If you call it "poo-poo" and "pee -pee" and Dad or Grandma call it "cauky" or whatever, the inconsistency in terms can throw her off.

Also, don't lose your cool. Potty training isn't for the faint at heart! LOL! Take a deep breath and walk out of the room if you have to every time she goes in her pants just seconds from getting off of the potty, OR every time she goes in her pants and doesn't tell you she has to use the potty. You'll do more damage to the whole process if you yell or scream or tell her she's naughty because she went in her pants. It's hard, but keep it light. When she goes in her pants, I say, "Darn, your pants are wet, and the Princess on your panties is sad because she's wet. But next time, if your pants are dry when it's potty time, the princess will be happy and you can have a piece of candy." For us, that is working (for the time being). My daughter also likes the pull ups that have the flowers or music notes on them. If they wet their pants, the flowers or music notes disappear and of course we don't want that to happen! When it's potty time, she always likes looking to make sure the flowers or notes are still there. That seems to help build confidence for her too.

Your daughter needs to start with success! Go nuts (whoop and jump up and down, have a "potty party!" when you catch her going on the potty. Figure out what your reward system is going to be. Let her success start to build her confidence. After a few days to a week or so, you probably won't need the timer anymore, and as she gains some control over that sphincter muscle, she'll be able to go longer stretches. Every time I think of it, (every 30-60 min) I'm asking my daughter if she has to go potty. She now is starting to tell me when she has to go. (Most of the time anyway) Do what you can do as a parent to make sure she is successful. Put her on the potty before nap time, and then on the potty again after nap time. First thing in the morning when she wakes up, (even if she's worn a diaper to bed) etc. Pretty soon, she may start waking up in the mornings dry, and as the days go, she'll have longer and longer stretches of success. Training isn't completed over night or in a week, or even a month. It may take 6 months or longer. You'll have to stay on top of it for a while, but it will get easier and easier as time passes. OH...also, in our bathroom, I have a potty chair AND a toilet seat insert for the "big potty". She has the option of using either one and does use both. You want her to be able to use the "big potty" whenever you go out shopping or whatever. Sometimes when I'm in the bathroom, she has to go to, so that way, she doesn't have to wait and can go on her potty chair. It's worked well for our household. Good luck on this stage of life!

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this is going to sond crazy but take away her pullups

calm down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!that will help, quit trying so hard. she will train when she wants to. you may be making it worse by bugging her all the time. When it come to toilet training she is in charge. Let her take the lead and it will come naturally. If you push her too hard it can cause problems. It gets extremely frustrating I know but just be patient.

I know Im the mother of a 3yr old boy, yeah mine may be a boy but its the same idea...Every kid is different. keep an eye open for the times in the day in which she wets her diaper/pull-up, take her then, not just every 15-20min. Also if you havent stop the bet-time sippy. Itll stop the bed-time wetting. Something else to do would be make games out of it, you really gotta make your kid feel EXTRA special and like a BIG kid!!!
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Mother of a 3yr old and newborn-boys

My daughter was kind of like this. What ended up working for her was that I had to go out of town and her cousin who was five took my daughter into the potty every time that she had to go. My daughter would then sit and go. I know that this is gross, but put her in big girl panties, let her go the store and pick them out. When she feels that she is wet she wont like it. It is hard work for you but it should not take long. Also, every time you go take her in there with you. Get her a small pottie and set it next to yours and when you go set her on her pottie.

Take away her pull ups!!! She is ok now because the pull ups keep her dry. She will change really fast when you put her in panties. Get her some pretty panties so she won't want to mess them up. I started to try to potty train my oldest daughter at 18mo (because I was trained at that age) but she wan't ready. She didn't get traind until 1 week after her 3rd bday. And yes take away the pull ups. Put her in undies. I truly belive my daughter didn't lean what it "feels" like to have to go potty until she was 3. All kids are different. Don't pressure her. I stopped pressuring her and BOOM she said mommy I want to were big girl undies and she was potty trained night and day in 1 week. And only 3 accident in that week. and they were during the day.

Superwoman 1053 has good advice. Here's more...clear your schedule...spend a few days with her, put the potty in front of the TV and put on some of her favorite videos. Check it every once in a while and make a BIG deal when she goes. Also give her rewards. Use words like "big girl", etc.
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I am a father of 5.

The more you are worried about it, the more your daughter realizes this and is less likely to want to be trained. Talk to her about it, take her to the store to pick out her underwear. Instead of putting her on the toilet on your time, ask her to tell you when she would like to be put on the toilet. That makes it feel like she is in control of the situation. Try to make it a family affair by getting others involved. Be encouraging - adopt a reward system that recognizes the smallest thing - like a gold star for every milestone or something like that. It will happen, I promise:)

Stop putting pull ups and diapers on her just but panties on her and she will get tired of being wet and dirty when she does it in her pants but I had to just stop putting pull ups and diapers on my son and he started going to the potty and when he does do something in the pot then I award him TAKE AWAY THE PULL UPS AND PUT HER IN "BIG GIRL PANTIES". AND ALWAYS REMIND HER, I BABYSIT A 3 YR OLD DURING THE SUMMER AND WHEN I DID THIS SHE NEVER ONCE HAD AN ACCIDENT. IT MAKES THEM FEEL "BIG". GOOD LUCK

Tell her that if she goes potting without wetting her self shse will get a treat or a toy. But first show her. Teach her how to go potting at the same time as you do.Good Luck.

I would keep her home for a week and let her pee in her underwear, so what, so maybe you have to throw them out. But I think maybe you are just pressuring her too much. Let her learn at her own pace, as long as she's potty trained by the time she starts kindergarden, she'll be fine. I think you worry to much about what other people think and that's not a very good character trait to pass on to your daughter.

I started out by buying a simple white potty that looked the closest to a regular toilet. No bells n' whistles. Then I got her the "Feel N Learn" pull-ups which are great because when they are wet, they feel wet to the child. Then we had a "sticker" program. I would put her potty in front of the toilet and we would both go potty together. Every time she was successful, she got a sticker that she placed on the bathroom cupboard beside her potty chair. That way she was able to see the rewards of her efforts. And I also made a big effort to praise her really dramatically! Then we'd both empty her potty into the toilet and wave and say "bye-bye peepees/poopoos, thanks for coming out!" She'd sometimes just sit on the chair and "pretend" to potty just so she'd get a sticker! But she quickly figured out that she needed to produce visible results... It took about 2 months. Then I took her shopping and let her pick out her own underwear (Dora). She was so happy to wear them and very, very proud. She had a few accidents but I never made a big deal out of them to her. It got tricky when we went out because it's important that as soon as said she had to potty, we had to pull over right away. I was sure NOT to fall back on the pullups just because we were out. It just prolongs the process. She was able to wear underwear during the day and a pullup at night. Then, eventually she lost the nightime pullup and I woke her at 2am and took her to the potty - every night for about a week. And then that was that.

Every child is different tho - the key is to make a big fuss when they go and not make a fuss if they don't. Good luck with it. Every child is different, but here's my experience with my two girls ... I'm a father of 3yr old twin girls. They showed a little interest in toilets when they were 18 months old, so we were thrilled that we might have them out of diapers early. Such was not the case. They preferred to use their diapers and we decided not to make a big deal about it. Quite a while later we started to talk about 'being big girls' and how that included 'big girl panties'. We just continued to have these kinds of conversations now and then until they decided that they wanted to be big girls. It was pretty much a quick adjustment. Every time they went to their potty we would just make a HUGE deal about it .. call each other over, hugs & kisses & clapping. That was the only 'rewards' we used. I think my wife and I must have been quite a sight hopping around the bathroom! It became a fun game for my girls and they would often try to race each other to see who could 'go on the potty' first. We kept them in diapers at night for another couple of months. They both had a couple accidents during the day and night, but not too many and not for too long.

So, from my experience, Don't Worry too much about it too much. Don't do any of the negative stuff .. I don't see how it's really productive, and it seems just a bit on the mean side, to me. It never really made sense to me, Why make your children feel bad? or uncomfortable? or dirty?

They _will_ learn .. just let them do it on their own time with lots of encouraging words and actions from you.

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