At what age wa your child communicating in sentances and counting to ten and is my daughter behind?

I think my boy is probably gifted. He is certainly exceptionally smart. The problem is that it is prejudicing my assessment of my daughter. He could not only speak in structured sentences at fifteen months, but could count 1 to 10 at less than 17 months. My Girl is now 19 months. Although I don't think she has a problem she is so far behind where he was it is difficult not to worry a little. She seems to understand ever so much but only has a vocabulary of around 30 words. At her age my boy had a vocabulary of over 1000 words. Unfortunately I am now separated from my partner which means we jointly spend with her less than 10% of the time we spent on him. Is he just distorting my expectations or should I seek advice?

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You are such a good Daddy....Well Prince, let me inform you that you can not in any way compare the two. I have four kids 25,21,16,and 4.Two his, two ours, I have seen it all. What I want you to do is keep talking, reading, playing,(those are the real building blocks of learning)each child is so different so each will bloom on different levels through out there lives.

You as Dad and there Mom need to spend as much time with them as these stages change.

Intellectual development: were you at the same level when you had your son as you are with your daughter. Do you do the same things as you did with him. ( its all about programing) Some times you can duplicate it but very rare. My two sons are not a like at all. Our oldest son is 16 and he was so easy at all his stages. I was there the whole time.Our youngest son is so difficult and manages different, I am there but in a distance. And I can see the differece.

Your house hold is changeing she might be picking up on all of that. The program has changed and they are very much intuitive of that. Weather we want to exknowlege it or not!

Somethings you can do for supporting brain development
giving support and attention to each child
providing continuous and predictable care
ensuring a safe and clean space for peaceful play
preparing nutritious meals and snacks

And the number one thing children learn by doing, discovering, and from relationships with supportive adults.
Make sure you and your x are on the same page.

Princess here for you always...

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A lot of the time, the second child is not as intelligent as the first. It is nothing wrong with what you're doing, and she is sincerely not very far behind as far as average children are concerned. Do not worry so much about it. Certainly don't put her in the shadow of her brother and compare them anymore. She is her own little person and will develop at a different rate because she is a baby and that's what babies do. I guess it happends in every family, my daughter is really smart and she is gifted, but my son he is kind of slow, I took him to some speech therapy also is helping other skills and been more active around other peple is fun and they evaluated him what was wrong with my son is that I was doing most of the stuff by him only pointing fingers the therapiest told me to wait until he forced him self to say things it work out good I still takew himto th therapies cause he has been learning other stuff.. Good Luck and not to worry to much it all kinds of help out there....

You are letting your son's abilities distort your expectations. I have 4 children and each learn at their own pace. You cannot expect them to all learn at the same ability or be good at the same things otherwise how would we be individuals? Have you had your daughter to a check up with your doctor? They will be able to tell what your child should be doing at this age.

Your daughter is fine. My oldest son learned to speak alot faster than the others. It doesn't mean that he is gifted, he just learns differently. If she is still having problems at 2 1/2, then get her tested, but she will shock you by learning everything at one time. Girls are like that anyway. They always like to shock you.

My 2 daughters are the same way. My 3yr old was doing everything early. First words by 4mo. Speaking in sentences by 1 counting to ten, knowing colors, shapes, abc's by 18mo and Spanish by 2. She speaks spanish very well now. But my 8mo old daughter has just stared to say MaMa and that's it! There is nothing wrong with her. Every child is different. And if your really worried have your youngster evaluated. It rarely has to do with intelligence and most of the time has everything to do with the fact that all kids are different. I have 5 kids. I have one girl who I know is very intelligent, but she is immature and has to learn to communicate intead of scream. My guess is, your daughter very much wants to communicate but she has gotten her point across in other ways. True? If so, she hasn't had any incentive to talk much. Over all, though, she WILL come around and catch up. Sit and read to her. It does wonders. But most of all...never compare children.

By 2 years of age, a child usually has about a 50-word vocabulary, speaks in 2-word sentences, points to pictures and body parts when prompted, listens to simple stories and rhymes, uses plurals, and follows simple commands.

Does she hear you ok? Does she respond good? As long as physical symptoms like hearing loss are ruled out, it might just be the whole separation issue and in her own time she will be outbabbling your boy.

I would talk to your pediatrician the next time you have an appointment, and they will know what questions to ask, etc.
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Parenting has an awesome Ages&Stages magazine they distribute, but also has an online chart here:
http://www.parenting.com/parenting/baby/article/0,19840,647358,00.html

each child is individual and as hard as it is not to compare its not a good indicator of much. girls and boys learn differently and at different rates just as each child does. I have three kids... my youngest seems to have out talked my oldest two at this age, my middle son was much more active in "advetures" (getting into trouble) and independent play wheres as my youngest is more into group play and more verbal. Point is i wouldnt worry much yet if she was five and still not speaking clearly, counting or using sentences then that would be reason for concern. Alot has to do with daycare/school and interacting with other kids etc. I think my middles child had a lot of influence from my oldest but he never did the daycare thing so she was all he had and with my youngest he is always interacting with the older kids, goes to daycare therfore his language is a bit above "normal" two year old range... anyhow i think when you have one that seems a bit more "gifted" in some areas you fail to see the "gifted areas" in the other child because your looking for specifics. my daughter tied her shoes at four my son is six and still can't...is she gifted? probably not just learning at different speeds... and what is the definition of "gifted" and "normal" when a child exceeds a parents expectations? doesnt seem like a valid scale if your just comparing to your other child... i would worry if she was in a class with 25 kids her age and sat in the corner mute but since you didnt mention anything like that I would think you were just being a bit overly... your daughter isn't behind,she different than your son,your expecting her to be like him and shes not.all kids start learning things at different ages.for example i have 3 kids they all started walking at different ages.my oldest was 1,middle child was 11 months,and my youngest was 10 months.My son is 24 months old and still doesn't talk,well he talks like a baby but not a whole sentence.he saids some words right but not alot.my sister was worried about her daughter too so she asked the doctar and the doctar said not to worry,some kids don't like to talk and sometimes they're say a whole sentence that you didn't even know that they knew how to say.kids can surprise you.if your that worried ask her doctar.

How much older is your son and is he talking for her? My daughter would not talk for a long time. She could say it but she just chose not to. Finally when she was almost 2 I decided that she was going to at least try to talk. If she whined or grunted I would ask her what she wants even if I knew what she wanted. Finally after a few months she wouldn't stop talking.

Also have you spoken to the pediatrician just to rule out any other problems that may keep her from talking?

My daughter was about 18 mnths when she could count to ten and sing her alphabets but she didn't start sentences until she was about 2 1/2 years. Kids have their different development stage, the best you can do is keep nurturing at the best of their abilities and try not to push too hard or you'll end up frustrating yourself and your child. Go to one of those websites were they have developmental milestones and things like that to give you an idea of whether she is truly behind or not. I would not worry though, it seems normal and usually your pediatritian knows some of th developmental milestones. You should pay him a visit--though you shouldn't rely on tyhem solely because some are not as knowledgable of normal development even if they act like it. Buying a good book on early development may also be a great guideline for the future.

children develope at different ages there really is NO age at which a child should be doing anything--people just say that to make you feel bad that your child isn't saying or doing what their child is

Don't worry about it, it sounds like your girl is ahead too, just not as far ahead as her brother. My daughter is 17 months and she knows a lot of words, but has trouble saying them. Every now and then I get a sentence, but it's hard to understand, since she mostly says half-words. My neice had a little boy that would hardly say two words when he was two, but now that he is three you wouldn't know it, he can talk up a storm and knows all his ABCs and numbers and all that stuff. Just keep on doing what you are doing, she will be fine, you sound like a great dad.

There is nothing wrong! My sister was 2 when she started to count from 1-5 in the right order!! You just need to let her do it by herself, with encouragement from you. Maybe your son could help you teach her. Also, NEVER let you daughter know that you think your son is 'smarter' than she is. Much of what very young children say is simply repetition that they've memorized. Also, unfortunately, too many bat the term "gifted" around. In reality, only an extreme minority of all children are truly gifted. Certainly, many kids are very intelligent, but every intelligent child is not necessarily gifted.

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