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I am in the process of potty training my son. I'll let him run around the house naked and having him sit on his potty from time to time. He won't go. He will hold it all day and I mean all day. By night fall he is screaming and crying holding him self and saying it hurts. Has anyone else experienced this? How can I make him go and not hold it? I feel so bad for him when he screams like that, he asks me for help and to get it out. I can't make him understand that I can't get it out, he has to let it out.

Has anyone else dealt with this before?

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My son told me it was dirty to pee in the toilet! (Yeh, cause it's cleaner in your pull-up?) Anyway, I used to put food coloring in and then around the time I thought he needed to go, I would ask him to see if the water in the toilet had changed color yet. Sometimes he would try to go, other times he didn't. Either way, It got him into the bathroom. Next step, I would put cheerios (gross) in the toilet and tell him to aim. Of course, I got him character underwear (he chose), and remind him that spiderman will not be happy covered in pee.

Many people mentioned having a roll model. That helps.

There are lots of things you can try. There are potty-trining videos, music, bathroom product line (wipes, soaps, toilet paper) from Huggies, books, reward charts/stickers, etc.

Good Luck

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no wow you might want to put the diaper back on for a while

try sitting him in a tub of warm water, that may help him release it... if not go to the doctor... i agree with answer #1...when you start potty training...you can't be gunghoe all the way.. if they don't respond correctly, you give it up for a few days, and then try again. i would try a training pant, and if you know he's going or about to go, take him to the potty then, get in the habit of taking him to the bathroom when he goes, even if the diaper is already wet or dirty and sit him down for a min, so he understands that's where it should take place

my three yr old does this we tried to make him go on his own, but the wouldn't so put the diaper back on and when he is ready to go "like a big boy" then he will do it

Sunshine...go back to the nappies...if he is not ready, you may as well beat your head against a wall....Give it a rip in a few months. NOT worth the trauma.

Please, haven't noticed your son is not ready for potty training?

Wait and when he is ready start the process.

talk to your ped. it's possible that he has an infection and it hurts him to go. either that or he's just not ready. wait for him to show you that he's ready. you can't force it. if he does want to sit on the potty try running water lightly from the tap to make a tinkling noise. that helped my daughter at first. if your son is still young i would put him back into the nappy but if he is about four i would continue to try and train him.he might be just scared.i think you could encourage him even more than you properly already are.you could tell him how he is going to be a bigger person.you could also give him a reward when he goes the first few times.(but he might demand the reward even after he is trained)
you could try the website www.babycenter.com but i think that is about toddlers using the toilet more than the potty.just type in potty training in the search box.good luck.xxx

My little brother went through this and I think maybe your son is afraid that you are watching him and is embarrassed or you can ask your pharmicist for some clear little cones (they look like triangles), you put them in his butt and he'll want to go a/s/a/p. I forgot the name but you know them when you see them or ask for them. Does he have a male role model that he can help him by role modeling? I've also explained to a child I am potty training that the "pee" is sad when it has to be in the diaper...it wants to go be with the other "pee" in the toilet.

Have you let him watch you or your husband go to the bathroom? Maybe he doesn't understand what he's supposed to do in the bathroom. Usually if you let him watch the two of you he will start to get it and be able to start going soon.
And, I noticed you said you've been working with him 'on and off' - that's probably another reason why he hasn't gotten it yet. Children need stability to be able to learn. You have to decide he's going to be potty trained, and stick with it. Don't go back and forth - it seems like now he's just waiting for you to give up again so he can start wearing pampers. Maybe if he realizes that he's not going to go back to pampers he will start giving potty training a better try.

Try this e-course on potty-training: http://www.mypottytraining.com

If that doesn't help, maybe a talk with his pediatrician can offer some ideas.

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