Is Spanking Children Okay?

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Spankings okay within reason.

1)Never spank the child when the parent is angry. It might be that the spanking is given for no good reason other than to vent the parents frustration, not for learning.

2)The parent should explain why the child is getting a spanking.

3) Parents should tell the child that they do really love them and that the discipline the are receieving doesn't mean they aren't loved. Give them a hug and kiss afterward.

4) I believe spankings shouldn't be given the children under two (unless the parent feels that their child is advanced or old enough to understand right and wrong actions for the most part). They don't know right from wrong. Instead, say 'no' and redirect their attention.

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yes, then they're good and won't murder you later in life

Yes. Get a proper paddle, take their pants off, and paddle them until they are crying bitterly. Depends where you're spanking them, when I was a kid if I played up my Mum would tap me on the back of the legs gently, she'd never whack me round the head or anywhere else. I dont think its bad, you just need to be careful that you dont leave any marks.

Yes a good spanking is OK but there is a fine line between spanking and abusing your child.

Yes, discipline,which involves corporal punishment, is always necessary in raising children.You know the old saying, "spare the rod, and spoil the child".

To tell you the truth, it depends what they did. For exmaple, if they just broke a cheap vase just yell at them but if they stole something thing from a shop. Spank is a very good answer. I smack my kids occasionally. Always on the bum or back of the leg. I was smacked as a child and it never did me any harm.

Absolutely! The headlines are full of people that were, obviously, never spanked as a child.

No its not. Its better to reward a child when they are good, rather than punish them when they are bad. When they see they get loads of attention from being good, they will carry on. Spanking them will make them think it going to happen anyways, so i may aswell be naughty, (if you know what i mean)

you should always consider other options before spanking a child like time-out chair and taking there treats of them before turning and spanking a child as it is practically illegal now to do so Well I raised my daughter to adult life without a lot of spanking...
And by that I mean I only spanked her bottom when she was too little to understand the word "no"...

Like if she were to endanger herself somehow by getting into something she shouldn't and before she could speak...
So basically, it was a quick slap on her rear end, not a long hitting or spanking as you might think...
Just enough of a slap to get her attention...

But real spanking where it is done over and over or leaves marks on the body, I would say NO!!!

I smack on occasion, I try to reward when good instead but children will still be naughty if it suits them, thats why its a learning curve :) No. If you are attentive and act quickly when the child is young (in other words, if you take your job as a perent seriously), you won't need to spank your child.

Parents who claim that spanking was the only way to get their child to behave didn't lay the foundation early enough with their children.

Spanking will make your child do what you want at that moment, but it will not help your child to achieve his or her full potential. Spanking tells children that violence (yes, it's violence) and fear are the primary motivators.

I think spanking is okay with exception. Giving a tap on the bottom when not else works is fine and again at what age should one start and should u use a belt or your hand is up to each individual. It has to be done in love and consistency. Nothing is going to work if you don't do the same thing every time. Children have to be able to expect consequences to a wrong action every time, no matter what.

I always sit my kids down and tell them what they did and how much it dissapointed me and how much I love them, but I have to spank them. They already know. As a result, my children are respectful of other people and authority. They need clear boundaries. And they need us to do what's right instead of what's easier. That is very hard.

I hope this helps ya. (and spanking with an open hand is not illegal anywhere)

Personally, Spanking is ok. Yes you try other avenues first, but if a child is determined to put themselves in harms way, or continue to disobey, they should be taught that there are CONSEQUENCES for their actions and be held ACCOUNTABLE for them. The sooner they are taught these things the better off they will be. Lord please yes! Spanking is fine. Forget the law, just do it within reason. Don't over do it and when you decide to do it make sure you explain why you did it. Please don't baby them after it's done. You'll just make it worst. He or she has to learn how to take NO! for an answer, you're not going to be here for them forever. It's a tough world out, better they get an idea how tough it is from you. Then when they get out there and feel it themselves.

I think it's lazy parenting.

this is the child u nurtured inside ur body and gave all u cud and now if u want to resort to spanking I must say u r not a gud parent...Spanking is never a solution ....u may get mad on occasions but always remember a human kid is most intelligent creature on earth so if u can make him understand few rules with firm attitude he wud listen and do it as u say if u have to think of spanking that shows you failed in ur duties as parent. I am sorry it may sound rude but Good Parenting has nothing called spanking.
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I love my 4 yr old son and he listens without ever being spanked!!!

It really is personal choice, I believe a small tap on the bottom will do a child no harm.

However, I chose not to smack my daughter, preferring to reward her good behaviour rather than punish the bad. This can be hard at times, children are exhausting and stress does get to me, but I didn't want to be hypocritical and teach my daughter that it's wrong to hit others when I've been smacking her.

only you can answer that question for yourself. I agree with many folks here.. spanking is ok if it doesn't reach the point of abuse or is actually physically harming them. It is meant to be more of a shock to the system to the kid and a reminder that their parents have control. A light swat on the bum is usually harmless I think.

Yes I spanked my children from about age 2-6 and only if they did something to physically hurt themselves,someone elseor someone else's property. when they turned 7 I figured they were old enough to understand when i talked to them about the things they did wrong. Sometimes i do have to spank but it's not as often. Also NEVER spank when u r angry take a deep breath count to ten before u spank

Yes I think spanking a child is okay depends on what they did

You have to use whatever method of discipline that works for the child. My stepdaughter doesn't care if she gets a spanking for anything but if she thinks she may have to sit in time out or a lecture, she thinks twice. My younger daughter doesn't mind time out or anything else, but responds to spanking. Every child needs different actions, but it is hard to use different methods for different children that live in the same household. I was only spanked as a child if I did something pretty bad, which was not very often. I think if you spank too often it becomes less feared and in turn, less effective. I don't think there is anything wrong with giving a spanking every now and then. It's the frequency and force you have to watch. Some kids don't respond to spanking. A friend of mine, who is a social worker, did give me some guidelines regarding spanking. It should always be with an open hand, never with an object, never anywhere but the bum. The face is a definite no! Also, it shouldn't be used for every infraction of the rules, then it loses it's effectiveness (my experience). Oh, it's probably a good idea not to do it in public, because some people act like they are the best parents in the world, and someone is bound to say something.

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