Is this a sign of a good relationship?

My boyfriend of 4 months is been spending time with my 4 year old son from a past re-ship,everday he goes and fetch him home and spend a lot of time together.i didnt know about it untill my mother tell me,i didnt ask him to do it.its his decision,he dont have a child of his own,should i worry or leave them do what they think its right for them not me interfering in their relationship.

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He's your son, so ultimately it's your decision, not his. I agree with others that it could be good and he's just a really nice guy, but definitely check it out. Ask your boyfriend about it. It seems very odd that he hasn't told you.

Maybe you could also do something together-all three of you. That way you could observe how they interact. But, I would definitely ask your son, privately, about what they do and if he enjoys spending time with your boyfriend. I hope it all turns out alright. Good luck!

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i don't want to scare you but i would be very wary. Your bf may just be a great person and love kids but just be wary. I agree he may just be fantastic but please just be careful children are so innocent, its your job to protect your son. So just be very cautious. Lets just hope it is that he loves you and your son and wants to make you both happy.

I would ask your boyfriend why he has not told you. Tell him that your Mother told you he has been spending a lot of time with your son. Maybe if you have a chat about it you will feel more at ease, also you will know if you are not happy with his answers. Also ask your son what they do together

I made sure to never introduce my son to pleople that I didn't think were going to be in his life for a long time. It was really hard on him, when his dad and I split and he was only 16months old. Kids get confused easily. So if it was me, I wouldn't really want my son to spend serious bonding time with someone I'd only been with for 4 months. Kids don't get the concept of dating and breaking up. All they see is another person that they liked, walking away.

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