potty training?

My 3 year old son will go pee in the potty at home if I drag him in there, but will go all buy himself at daycare. At home he goes behind the kitchen table to poop and then denies that he's done it. I have tried rewards and making him stay in his wet pull-up, but he just dosen't seem to care.What works cause I'm losing my mind.

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Talk to your day care provider. Obviously he realizes that the expectation at day care is that he go to the potty by himself.

If you can mirror what she does at day care maybe you can win at home.

Other things to try are see if there is a trend and pattern when he goes to the bathroom. If you see one, make sure you put him on the potty in advance of those times; stay with him, give him some books etc.

Pick him up, take him to the potty. When you put him on the potty, don't talk to him, just do it. Pick him up if you have to; if he squirms and kicks, just stay cool no matter how hard.

Be consistent; make potty training your whole world when you have him at him. Let your husband take care of the other kids or find somebody to take the other kids so you can just stay focused. You should have it done in a week.

Good luck.
PS. Dr. Phil has information on potty training you might want to review.

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If I knew, my 3 year old girl wouldn't be wearing a pull up right now. :( I'll be checking back to see what answers you get. GL :)

Boy, he's got your number, huh?
You're losing your mind and he's haveing a great time.
stop "losing your mind" and just expect that he will go at home like he does at daycare.
Children tend to give us what we expect.
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25 years of parenting

I know this might sound wierd... Let him go naked! I did that with all 3 of my boys, and they were completely trained in a week!
Good luck!

It's your actions and not his that's causing him to use the bathroom on himself. You need to stop rewarding him if he doesn't do this. You need to be more stricter if he doesn't use the bathroom correctly. If needs to use the bathroom ask him despite whether or not he needs to go. That should help him refrain in doing his accidents in his pull-ups. Take off the pull-ups they are too absorbant.Put on regular underwear. I worked for my son. Let him be uncomfortable in his wet or diry underwear for a little while.

Just chill a little. My daughter was a breeze she potty trained herself. My twin boys well i am just grateful that they are potty trained at 13y. I found out the hard way the more i pushed the worst they got. When i kind of put it on the back burner and eased up they finely caught on.

I think your son uses the bathroom at daycare because he sees the other kids doing it. Children mimic and they also don't want to be left out so he's getting double support. I had trouble potty training my two sons until my husband started taking them to the bathroom. Also, use underpants only so he is uncomfortable when he has an accident. More laundry for you but for a shorter duration.

Every child is different, but here's my experience with my two girls (boys are different, but maybe this will help) ... I'm a father of 3yr old twin girls. They showed a little interest in toilets when they were 18 months old, so we were thrilled that we might have them out of diapers early. Such was not the case. They preferred to use their diapers and we decided not to make a big deal about it. Quite a while later we started to talk about 'being big girls' and how that included 'big girl panties'. We just continued to have these kinds of conversations now and then until they decided that they wanted to be big girls. It was pretty much a quick adjustment. Every time they went to their potty we would just make a HUGE deal about it .. call each other over, hugs & kisses & clapping. That was the only 'rewards' we used. I think my wife and I must have been quite a sight hopping around the bathroom! It became a fun game for my girls and they would often try to race each other to see who could 'go on the potty' first. We kept them in diapers at night for another couple of months. They both had a couple accidents during the day and night, but not too many and not for too long.

So, from my experience, Don't Worry too much about it too much. Don't do any of the negative stuff .. I don't see how it's really productive, and it seems just a bit on the mean side, to me. It never really made sense to me, Why make your children feel bad? or uncomfortable? or dirty?

They _will_ learn .. just let them do it on their own time with lots of encouraging words and actions from you I started out by buying a simple white potty that looked the closest to a regular toilet. No bells n' whistles. Then I got her the "Feel N Learn" pull-ups which are great because when they are wet, they feel wet to the child. Then we had a "sticker" program. I would put her potty in front of the toilet and we would both go potty together. Every time she was successful, she got a sticker that she placed on the bathroom cupboard beside her potty chair. That way she was able to see the rewards of her efforts. And I also made a big effort to praise her really dramatically! Then we'd both empty her potty into the toilet and wave and say "bye-bye peepees/poopoos, thanks for coming out!" She'd sometimes just sit on the chair and "pretend" to potty just so she'd get a sticker! But she quickly figured out that she needed to produce visible results... It took about 2 months. Then I took her shopping and let her pick out her own underwear (Dora). She was so happy to wear them and very, very proud. She had a few accidents but I never made a big deal out of them to her. It got tricky when we went out because it's important that as soon as said she had to potty, we had to pull over right away. I was sure NOT to fall back on the pullups just because we were out. It just prolongs the process. She was able to wear underwear during the day and a pullup at night. Then, eventually she lost the nightime pullup and I woke her at 2am and took her to the potty - every night for about a week. And then that was that.

Every child is different tho - the key is to make a big fuss when they go and not make a fuss if they don't. Good luck with it. I'm a mother of 2, a boy and a girl. Believe me if you stick with a schedule and a routine and do not give choices such as "do you want to try potty?" he will eventually go

This is, believe it or not, normal. I suggest getting videos for him to watch. There is a video and book combo called "Once Upon A Potty For Him". They have it for girls too. Also get books on about the potty. After watching the videos and reading about it start training. Make sure you stick to a schedule. Don't ask him if he needs to go, just take him. You can even make a cute potty training chart for him with dltk-kids.com. I would take him every 2 hours. It'll be tough but stick with it.

Also, I do not recommend bribing him with stuff. My philosophy on this as a parent and as a teacher is that it will only cause problems. Ex. If everytime he goes potty you give him an m&m, he will expect that m&m whereever you are and you are not always going to have that treat which will cause more problems. I always used hugs, kisses, high 5's and verbal praise. You always have those handy.

I wouldn't get upset when accidents either, even though it is unpleasant. Take a deap breathe and just talk about it like "it is ok that you had an accident, you need to tell me if you have to go. It is ok. Let's try harder next time" etc.

Anyway, good luck. Hope all works out well for you. Remember everyone's situation is different. What works for one may not work for another. Eventually, we all pee and poop on the potty :)

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