What causes a 5 yr old to destroy things just out of spite?
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He is angry because he is not your baby anymore and has to share you. He has now found a way to get your attention. He probably gets a huge response from you when he destroys things.
Make sure you spend some special time with him everyday. When the baby is sleeping, read him a story, make a snack together, do an art project. You can also have him help you with the baby. He can get a diaper, pick out the baby's outfit, find the binky. Tell him that he is so lucky because he is a big brother. Remind him that he can do so much more than the baby because he is a big boy. Notice him when he is not misbehaving. Tell him "I like the way you did that." "You did that by yourself!" "You can climb really high!" "Look at all the colors you used on that picture." These are all great confidence builders.
Also, use logical consequence whenever possible. If he makes a mess, he cleans it up. If he breaks a toy, it goes in the trash. If he is being destructive with a toy, put it up high on a shelf for a day where he can see but not reach it. Tell him "When you are ready to play with this gently you can have it back." Another logical consequence for being destructive with you things is to hold him responsible. He can to chores around the house to earn an allowance to pay for the damage.
When he hurts the dog, pick up the dog (or get down to the dogs level) and coddle coddle the dog. Shut you son out. Tell him "If you are going to hurt the dog, you cannot be around it." You can also tell him that the dog might get mad and bite him.
Be patient, consistent, set limits, pick you battles, and say "Yes" when you can. Good luck!
Other Answers:
He doesn't know any better. He doesn't get that what he does is bad. He thinks it's fun. Teach him calmly that what he's doing is hurting Mommy and Daddy's things. And be patient. It takes time for kids to learn these sorts of lessons.
It could be a chemical imbalance or a food allergy. A 5 year old should know better. anger.
My son is 4 and he would never do anything like that. That doesnt sound like normal play behavior. He doesnt destroy his toys because he knows they are gone and he wont get anything new. He doesnt destroy my stuff because then he wont get anything at all. Do you consider him to be spoiled or do you have a problem with discipline?
He is old enough to know the consequence of his actions. You need to tell him that what he is doing (not him) is bad (remember just his ACTIONS are bad, not him). Tell him that he won't get any new toys if he is going to destory them! Also when he destroys something of YOURS then you need to put him in time out or take away the tv or no desert for the rest of the night. I do think he is old enough to know better! He just seems to know he is able to get away with it!You need to dicipline him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is testing you to see what he can get away with. You need to spank his little hind end and make sure that you are consistent. He also needs to EARN new things If he can't take care of what he already has ne DOESN"T deserve new. Take away the toys that he loves and make him earn them back with good behavior. Negative attention is better than no attention at all. He might be feeling angry cuz you have a new baby and he blames you for that. Try spending 20 minutes a day completely alone with him No distractions just you and him. Good luck
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