Any advice for Potty Training a difficult three year old boy?

What would one do with a very determined and sometimes defiant little three year old who knows HOW to use the potty and does everynight after his bathtime but refuses to use the potty during the day? I have explained to him that we will go back to doing whatever we are doing (playing play-do or cars, etc...) nothing works and ends up in a battle and I dont want to do that! I am desperate, please help any advice will be better than nothing.

(As far as rewards go, he just tears up stickers and i was thinking of giving him a matchbox car evertime he uses the potty but when do you stop that and will the behavior only be done expecting a prize and when there are no more prizes will we go back to diapers???!!) ugh.

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A young child being potty trained will not tell you that they need to go; don't ask them, TELL them it's time to go- you are in charge. If they fight you because they want to play or go out, tell him "Potty first, then play (or whatever the desired activity is) and stick to it. Eventually, your child will not resist because he'll learn it's quicker to go and get it over with, and soon after that, you'll find he'll start going on his own. Each child is different in the amount of time it takes to potty train, so be patient, and don't punish if they dont go or if they have an accident; it will come in time. Punishment, yelling will only cause the child stress and they will regress in their training. I have had children with developmental delays potty train in three days and others potty train in 2 years (talk about being patient!!). But the difference in the kids that learned quickly is that the parents CONSISTENTLY followed the advice even thought it was a lot of work. The parents that didn't follow through at home had to buy diapers a lot longer. As a teacher, I insist on everyone involved with the child working together as a team so the child doesn't get confused or regress, and so they can progress and have success with potty training. Good luck.

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where r u from?

You could keep a potty next to where he is playing.

Or read the book "Toilet Training in 24 Hours."

Part of this stubborness is just his age and you can help him by introducing toileting as part of his routine as is, "before you play with your cars, you have to sit on the toilet."

Then, ensure the cars don't come out until he goes.

Before or after daily routine activities, introduce the toilet and then stop the progression until he goes.

It will be a major fight for three to five days. After that, you'll both get used to it. I hope! good luck.
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Tell him big boys don't use diapers. And that other kids will not play with him 'cause he doesn't know how to use the bathroom. That worked with my niece.
I'm potty trainning my 23 month old son and what i do is that I read to him a bunch of books about potty trainning. he loves those stories and since they have drawings of elmo, big bear, barney,. etc. etc. he wants to do the same thing. He even sings about it. It's hard to do but you have to be constant and do not lose your temper.

Keep encouraging him to use the potty, but if he doesn't want to, try not to push him. Be patient. Trying to use force or discipline never works, so try not to get in a battle about it. He'll come around in his own time. My experience has taught me that the best reward is praise. My kids love hearing how proud I am that they used the potty like a big kid!

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