a question for all the mothers out there..serious answers only please?
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Sounds to me she is cutting those horrid 12 month molars. Yes, it is bad. I know this. Give her some tylenol about every 4-6 hours, more towards the 6 hours. You can also try the teething tablets, they work too and are natural. I gave my son 3 at a time and they seemed to help him. Along with the tylenol and the pills you should be alright. This will also help her sleep.
I know this is hard on you as well as her. Be patient with her, give her lots of love and attention. Let her chew on a close to frozen washrag, maybe that will help. The cold will sooth the gums and maybe help.
Hang in there. I know it's hard but once those come in you will be fine for a while. The molars are the worst. If it isn't the molars all of these things will still work. Take Care of yourself and that baby. I know they are precious.
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Just remember screaming will only upset her more.
Are you giving her tylenol and teething medication? Are you giving her things to gum on? I know its hard, but the tooth will eventually pop in. One of my kids popped 3 at once and it was a nightmare until they came in. There were times I'd give the baby to my husband when he came home and go hide in our room. ...I think you are already very patient..... I lost my cool in just one night of crying :)
There are teethers for them to bite on during this period. What I did was to buy a few and put them in the fridge and let my baby bite them when she cries. The cold teether offers very good relief.
its normal to get to the point of frustration..you think theyre never going to stop crying ...theyre just giving you such a headache and you juse lose it...this is just the beginning of when yelling at them is going to happen...although theyre just a baby and yelling at them is only going to upset them more..but its not the first time theyre going to hear you yell at them ...when theyre tugging at your shirt while youre on the phone going MOM MOM MOM MOM MOM!!! you yell...just try to keep in mind that theyre in pain and its only temporary...just keep trying to find the try teething stuff for them....if they just keep crying stick your finger in their mouth to chew on ...youd be surprised how that will keep them quiet for a while I have my times when my daughter is the same way....but she does it when she is sleepy but wont go to sleep.. try using teething tablets and some Childrens Motrin...but what seems to help with my daughter was to take her for a walk and it would calm her down and put her to sleep...if you need to talk about it just e-mail me at sjeboyce@yahoo.com
no ur not a bad mother but, u should try rubbing her gums with ice I've found that to be affected when my 2 where teething
I know exactly how you feel. I'm on my third baby and still get so frustrated when they just keep on crying. Do you have a means of escape somewhere, where you don't have to take the baby. Just even for 10 minutes. Also what do you use for teething pain. Infant's tylenol helps or if you don't like the medicating route, I found that Hylands Teething Tablets helped. They are available at health food stores and dissolve right in your baby's mouth. Hope this helps. Good luck and remember that teething is temporary.In that situation, usually I tell my husband that I need to get away. I have someone watch the kids for a little while and I leave the house. If I can't leave and I am feeling like that, I give my baby tylenol, baby anbesol or orajel, a pacifier lay her down in bed close the door and go to the other end of the house and step outside so I don't hear her. I sit there for roughly five to ten minutes and breathe deeply and slowly, until I am calmer. Then I go back inside and if my baby is still crying, I pick her up, now that I am calm and then I sit and rock her. If this teething pain has gone on longer than a few days, then I would call the pediatrician. It is possible that she has an ear infection. That is what I do, it is so normal to have those overwhelming frusterating feelings, but you do not want to scream at her, it will only worsen the situation. If you have someone who can help you and watch your daughter for you, please get them to right now and go somewhere, shoot even going to the grocery store can be relaxing, go figure lol!, if you are going alone. I am glad you asked for advice, this is the best I can suggest for you to do, I hope this helps. Good luck and GOD BLESS.
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mom of three, currently dealing with the same exact thing with the youngest. It's normal to get where you are at this point, don't worry, try putting a peppermint candy in a 4oz bottle of water let it dissolve and let her drink that;this has a soothing effect; it works on colic too; also baby Tylenol helps, ask your doctor about the Tylenol if you haven't used yet.
I had the same problem with my daughter, who is now four. It gets better. Sometimes, I would hold her and cry with her. When it got too bad, I took a break. If you live with someone else, see if they can watch her while you clear your head. Go to the store or take a walk around the block. Determine the cause of her crying. If her gums are sore, get a teether for her or teething biscuits. Ask her doctor if it is OK to give her some sort of pain reliever. If the crying won't stop, lay her in her crib and let her cry for a while. Eventually she should cry herself to sleep. Check in on her every 10 minutes or so. Putting her in another room stops you from doing something you will regret, such as yelling. If she cries for more than an hour, something is wrong. At that point you should her doctor.
when my son was getting his first year molars in it was 3 1/2 weeks of no sleep for me or him, but when his other teeth came in (4 at a time) this is what I did: give her some tylenol before she goes to sleep at night and try to put some baby orajel on her gums, too. she may bite down on your finger when you do it but it will give her some relief. after that try rocking her in a rocking chair and singing to her. the soothing sound of your voice and gentle rocking motion may help her to calm down & relax. you could also try giving her a bath in lavender & chamomile (they sell the bath soap in the baby isle at Wal-Mart) which are both natural relaxants.I hope this works for you and your daughter. Good luck!!!
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rub her gums w/whiskey and you do a shot to calm down.
yelling is making it worse. say what you want to say even cuss but do it in a normal voice. you will feel better and she has no idea what you are saying.
count to ten. put her in her crib and leave the room. she will be fine and it will save your sanity.
good luck!
Freeze a very wet washrag and give it to her to chew on and no you are not the only mother to do that. when I would do that I would stop my self and put them in the crib and walk out of the room, and take a deep breath. If anybody tells you are a bad mother and that they've never done that then they are probably lying, Parenting is about learning, without a manual. We are only human. Being screamed at sucks! Especially when the person screaming at you is the person you love most in this whole world.Just remember that you are building the foundation of your relationship with your daughter right now and you want her to trust you and to not be afraid of you. Do you have anyone who can come over and watch her for an hour while you go get a cup of coffee? Have you tried teething tablets? I have been there 2 times and I understand, the key is to chill, do everything you can to help her, and know that it won't last forever.
try tylenol, ambisol and put a wet wash cloth in the freezer for her to chew on. then try to rock and comfort her. sing read a book. most importantly you stay calm children can sense adult tension, so being really mad quietly and screaming are going to have the same effect.
ask a family member for help. ask someone you completely trust to come over when they have a chance and give you a hand .both of you can entertain the baby or take turns carrying her. but first try everything you can like orajel, teething tablets(all natural and safe), baby tylenol, wet towel, teethers
Go to the drugstore and get Teething Tablets. It's a natural, homeopathic medicine that has been around since 1905. The pharmacist will know all about it. Get some and regain your sanity! Hun do not feel bad we all do it some will just NEVER admit it. When you are at your wits in try this place he in her crib with a few chew toys chilled from the fridge NOT FREEZER THEY ARE TOO COLD FROM THE FREEZER shut the door and walk outside for 5 min or so. People say it is dangerous to leave a child unattended but if your ready to strangle every living being within a hundred miles then a five min. break is not going to hurt her nor you. There is another thing for teething that you can try to ease her pain and discomfort but it is messy give her an old fashion Popsicle the coldness helps with the swelling and the pain plus it helps numb the area. My kids lived off of Popsicles and beef jerky when teething because it was the only thing that i could get them to chew on. Granted you have to watch them VERY carefully with the beef jerky so they do not bite a big piece of but it works.
Hope this helps.
No, you're not the only mother who has yelled at their baby. It's very hard when your child is in pain and you really can't do anything about it. See if your husband/mate will give you some recoup time on the week end or at night when he/she gets home from work. You just need a break to regather your strength.
Try giving your baby a washcloth filled with ice. She can suck on it and the cold will make her gums feel better.
Good luck to you and just hold on, it will get better. Imagine having a baby with colic for six weeks!
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