Help with my 3 year old son?

my son turned 3 last weekend. I have babied him too much. He still has his pacifier and blanket he wants to carry everywhere. He doesnt take his pacifier to daycare but he must have it at home. The past week he has been getting his back molar and he has been very cranky. Last night he insisted on sleeping in my bed so I gave him some motrin and let him lay with me for a while then I put him back in his bed. A few hours later he is back in my bed again. Is this normal or is he trying to start a new pattern? What should I do?

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My advice, having had 3 3-year olds recently (my kids are now 6, 4 & 3) is that he probably won't be using a soother when he graduates highschool......dentists will put the fear of God into you if they find out he's still "using", but if it's for his own peace of mind, personally I don't object. I'd rather see a quiet well-adjusted kid coping with a blanket and soother than a screaming upset one without......

As for the sleeping in with you, if he's happy and you are all resting, that is the most important thing. If no one is sleeping well you may want to make some other arrangement. If he's getting teeth, and they are bothering him perhaps it is more a need for comfort than wanting to create a new sleeping arrangement. Ask yourself, was he happy sleeping on his own before? Did he start off the night in his own bed prior to the teething? Chances are if the answers are "Yes" he will go back to sleeping on his own once this passes.

As a testimonial to the "sleeping in" problem, we have a 4 yr old who always started off in her own bed, but at some point during the night would ALWAYS end up in with us. She just stopped doing it last week. No reason, no encouragement from us; just stopped. My point: Do whatever you are comfortable with. You are not going to "screw him up", or your family, or anything else if you start with the motivation of raising a healthy, happy kid. Lots of people will give you advice. Please be wise enough to choose the bits that seem reasonable and suitable for YOUR OWN family. Best Wishes!!!

Its normal when you baby them to much. Time for some tough love, or you are going to be making his bed and picking up his crusty kleenex's off the floor next to his computer when he is 35.

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