My 15 month old daughter has been biting and pinching me . How can I get her to stop ?
My daughter is very prococious , smart , and very advanced for her age . She has NEVER done any of these things when we are out of the house . I am a full time stay at home Mom , so we are at the park and library a lot. She gets plenty of fresh air daily . I'm at a loss of what to do . Does she just not like being at home ? Any ideas ? Help !
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Well, the current powers that be say "sternly say "no..don't bite" and put the baby down. Then walk away. Make it clear you won't put up with such behavior."
And sometimes it works.
Our grandmothers said "bite them back." Guess what, that almost always works.
Modern experts say "oh no, never bite them back."
Funny thing is, the people I know who did it found it immediately effective and guess what, baby was NOT emotionally scarred for life.
I'd say give her a dose of her own medicine. Not too hard, mind you, but hard enough to hurt enough to get the point across.
She's probably still too young for time outs. It's very hard with preverbal kids. She needs an immediate reaction.
If you haven't the guts to bite her back, then give her a loud "no, that is not okay" then put her down in her room or walk out of the room. Being away from you and the action is probably the harshest punishment.
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You Cant, Thats how Babys Are.
Its Only A Phase Though
at 15 months your daughter is not going to understand that biting and pinching are unacceptable. You may also want to consider putting an end to the breast feeding. Get her a bottle. Putting her in time out isn't going to accomplish anything either. Like I said, at 15 months, she is not going to understand what a time out is or why she is getting one. Finally, a library is probably not the best place to take an infant. Just some suggestions. Hope this helps. Good luck.
Fifteen months old is a little young for time-out--I'm not sure she understands that's a consequence of her behavior. I think you just have to be consistent, and every time she does it, say, "No! That hurts!" in a firm voice. At that age, she's probably just exploring the different kinds of things her body parts can do, like if she pulls her own hair and it hurts, but she doesn't realize what's making it hurt.
I also have a 15 m.o - a boy. This is a total phase, their way of showing anger or frustration. Could be from the breast feeding being weaned. It's is important to just let her know it is wrong with a firm "no" and that it hurts mommy all while looking her in the eye and sitting at her level, then distract her with a toy or an activity. Again, it's really their frustration at the world at this age and their inabilty to communicate that emotion that leads to pinching, biting and in my case ,slapping. Just stay the course, and keep telling yourself "that this too shall pass". Good luck !
my daughter is 14 months and does the same thing. I reasearched it and found out that if you say dont pinch or dont bite they only pick up on the last word. this would explain why she pinches or bites when she needs a diaper change.....because when she does need a diaper change the last thing you say that she hears is pinch....thats why it is best to say no no. My daughter just does it now for fun and now that i know she knows what it is i slap her hand not hard of course just enough to let her know i'm serious. So just think about what you say when you are teaching her not to do it. It could also be from not breastfeeding she might feel abandon in some way so don't forget to play with her alot to make up for that. Let her know that she is still number one.
Do it back. When she pinches you pinch her back or bite her back, let her see how much it hurts. My son whent through this phase all kids do, one time he drew blood so I bite him pretty hard, he never did it again.
when my son was 3or 4 he bit my mother in law on the upper part of the arm. I told her to bite him back in the same spot and he would quit his biting people. Well she would'nt do it so I did it was just hard enough to let him know he done wrong. From that day on he did'nt bite anybody else. I had my mother in law mad at me for a week or so. My son is 17 now.
I also have a 15mth girl and she is into the hitting thing right now as well, we haven't bit any YET though and I wish I knew how to stop it myself. My oldest girl never did such things so it's all new to me as well. My mom says it's just a fase and she'll grow out of it, I just hope she's right.
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