How much can a two-year-old understand, i.e. when adults are having serious discussions?
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She undoubtedly understands very much of what is going on. She may or may not understand the actual words, but she certainly *will* get the stress level in the family from the tone of voice and actions of the adults around her.
Not talking about it around her is not necessarily any better, as she will *still* pick up on the emotions being expressed non-verbally.
Instead, I would suggest sitting down with her and telling her the truth--at a two-year-old level. For instance, if you are talking about a death in the family, let her know that she won't see the family member again and that everyone is sad because of this. Whatever the particular problem, explain how it will affect *her* and what is happening to the family.
She will undoubtedly remember the problem for as long as it continues to be a significant stress in the life of your family, and maybe longer. It will almost certainly affect her behavior, as well, but it could be in unpredictable ways. She may act perfectly normal until the whole thing is over, then start misbehaving. She could react now by acting more baby-like (wanting to be held all the time, losing any toilet training, etc.). There is just no way to know.
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she may not understand much as far as comprehending the words. however you'd be surprised how empathic children can be, especially with their family. if youre sad or upset and discussing it in a sad or angry way the feelings will be picked up by the kid even if the meanings arent
Between the ages of 1 and 4 children are at their most physic. I don't mean that they can tell the future. It means that they can pick up a sense of situations even if they don't comprehend the words coming from your mouth they absolutely DO sense the seriousness, angry, harschness, happiness, etc.. from your adult conversations. These conversations are best left to private moments. Good Luck! Your toddler is definitely too young to understand words or even conepts but she can surely 'read' your emotions and your as expressed by your faces and body actions.
Even the tone of your voice will very much affect her. If you are on some arguments, try not to let her listen to it or even be around when you talk. Try considering talking in a closed room. Children as young as two, can pick up our emotions easily and that will manifest in their character at a later time.
Maybe She doesn't understand, but remember that our conversations and discussions are always acompanied by the feelings, and any boy or girls no mather how old is he or she can perceive those things.
And besides if all the ambient is so sad, she will be sad. So, you migth have the discussions and talks, because they have to be done, but try hard that she is not around.
And give her an space of joy, play and share it with her. You know, take her to the park, play with her, listen music, it will be relaxing for you, and it will help her not to get so involved in this moment, when she will feel sadness but cannot understand why.
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I agree that kids definitely understand tone and body language and all that.
But I disagree with all these people who suggest that she isn't understanding your literal words, too. I think it depends on how verbal she is.
My two-year-old is EXTREMELY verbal, and she understands (and repeats) just about everything we say around her. And she makes her own associations between the things we talk about and the things she's thinking about.
I'd say there's a good possibility that she understands everything. I don't know whether she'll remember. Probably not. But it can surely have an impact on her in the short term.
If you don't want her to know, or to talk about it to someone else outside of the family, you should probably wait to talk until after she's in bed. more than you think there a sponge there's a story here about yelling read it to him freebie with no spam
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