Trama of kindergarden - please help !?

My granddaughter is just turning 5 in late September and started kindergarden last week. She is very, very bright but socially behind, very shy. She is totally bored at home (new baby and mom is suddenly busy with baby - think she also is feeling a little left out) and has not friends close by to play with. The first day did not go to bad but it has gone down hill from there. She is waking up crying during the night, begging her parents (my daughter) to please don't make her go, crying often during the day. My son-in-law and daughter are heart broken along with me and don't know what to do. Is this normal? How can we make it easier for her or should we have held her back a year. She has always been a home raised child so we felt this would be a very healthy thing for her. Please help - we are open to any and all suggestions from other parents. Thanks so much !

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I would take the time to watch the baby so the mother can have special time with her. Then I ( as the parent) would go to the school and talk with the teacher and brainstorm on different things that can be done at home to help her feel better about school. School is so important. You want to take the time to ingrain that feeling of fun and how imprtant school is now so later down the road other problems don't pop up. Maybe you or her mom could take her to places with lots of other kids, like playgrounds, indoor play places and take the time to make friends with parents of other children and make playdates. Take the time and make the extra effort by example to help her get over her shyness. If you're really concerned about her being behind socially have her tested for a type of autism called asperger's. It's really rare in girls, but it could help explain why she shies away from people and situations. My son has asperger's and he has a hard time understanding peoples different facial expressions. But to tell the truth - it really sounds like she needs that extra attention because of the baby.

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