any advice on how?
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I have a 10 year old who is still this way! Everyone has something that is very, very dear to them. Something they own or something they love to do. Find out what your kid's is, and that is what he loses when he misbehaves. This is not negotiable. Don't make it a long time he has to go without it, or it loses its punch. An hour maybe at first - a short period of time. If you make it a long time their reaction is - oh, well I'm going to be punished anyway might as well make it worth it. At 3, your child has not since of time, so adding more is meaningless.
After a few times, he will adjust and then you will have to find something else. This is for rebellious behaviour.
My opinion on time out is that it is useless. Establish a "power chair". When he needs control, tell him to go there. When he feels like he's got his control back, he gets up. You don't set the limit - he does. This sounds crazy, but it does work. These kids are control freaks. They do best when they have control over the situation. They do horribly when they don't.
This is not just his power chair. It is yours and your husband's too. When you are losing control, go sit in the power chair until you feel better. Use this sparingly and it will have an enormous impact on your child. It is much more effective then losing your temper!
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Be consistent, pick your battles and find something other than time out for consequences. Put a favorite toy in time out, don't let him watch TV, make him stand in the corner with nose to the wall and hands up(like being arrested). Right now, he is running the show and you are letting him.
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Mother of 2, daycare provider to 10
yup be consistent, make sure he doesn't see you get emotional. Make it as if you don't care that he has to stand in the corner or time out. The way it worked best for me was like the other person said, remove something he loves but I believe in positive re-enforcement. If he does great reward him. Praise goes a long way. Make sure you ignore him while he is being punished. Good luck. 3 year olds are a challenge. And remember, they will out grow these stages. Mine is almost 12 going through puberty LOL. i still say a good old spank of the rear end is the best means of getting a point accross. If he is running all over you now, wait until he is a teenager.
With a gentle yet firm hand pop him on his bottom only when he acts up. Telling him that when he is being naughty that it hurts your feelings and you would rather not get on to him. If he continues to act out after the pop on the butt try making him stay in his room w/o toys for 3 minutes and 1 additional minute for each time he acts up during the first 3 minutes. A form of early grounding. If he continues to think its such a game. Let him sit in "time out" or in his room for as long as he can stand it. After he sits silently in his room for about 10-15 minutes maybe more he'll learn. But you have to stick to it. I have one just like it. Its his way or no way. He's get in trouble quite a bit. But he knows that when he's in trouble he better stop acting out. Sometimes he acts out to get more attention if you notice he acts out when you haven't had any special mommy time with him chances are that he is just asking for attention. Otherwise he's just testing his limits. Good luck!
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