Another mom invited a child that wasn't her own to my child's birthday party. What should I do?

I only invited a small number of children to the party because I'm trying to keep it within my budget. I mailed the invitations instead of passing them out at school in hopes of not hurting anyone's feelings. Now this woman, who's child I did invite, told another child's mother about the party, a child I did not invite, and I don't know what to do. My child doesn't really play with this uninvited child and I don't know the mother very well either. Any suggestions?

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I'm going to have to go with the majority on this one...That mom sounds like a presumptuous b**ch. Children are more perceptive than we give them credit for. I am sure the mother has already told her child about the party and there would be some major hurtie feelings had by the child. PLUS the kid would probably pick up on mom's discontent with the whole situation. What a mess you want NOTHING to do with. Some moms are just so darn catty! Be the classy babe of the neighborhood and welcome them into your home-just beware of knives in your back!

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Tell here you already have your hands full with the kids you did envite.. and that you would apreciate it if she cleared it with you next time.

let the kid have fun,they dont eat 2 much.. Personally, I wouldn't want to tick anyone off, so I wouldn't say anything. I'd just be gracious and happy that more people are coming to celebrate. It's kind of rude that she didn't even ask, though. :-(

Be the bigger person, don't mention it. Maybe you'll make a new friend(even though this woman seems incredibly rude). If you do bring it up, it may cause tension before/during your child's birthday party. Hopefully, it's just a few other people. I would definitely let it go, and understand this stuff happens. I usually have a party at my daughter's school so that all the children can celebrate with her, and then have a small family party for her at home. I find it's more enjoyable that way.
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Mom of a 3 year old.

talk it over...

Just let the Kid come. The more the Merry. You dont want to hurt a little ones feelings, you would not want someone hurting your kids feelings. I think you may be stuck with one more child. Just explain to this childs mother that the reason that her child wan'nt invited is that you were trying to keep it to closest friends and family members for budget reasons. I'm sure she'll understand. Tell her her child can go but to please not tell any others about it. Hope this works for you.

You need to deal with this face forward. Private invite, or they pay for the ex child!!!

be honest and let the mom know that you are on a budget and that is why you have a small amount of children and that you didn't invite many other children because of this. also, if this is the only one just add one more seat. what will it really hurt and it will brighten one childs day.

Just wing it. Welcome them and everyone will have fun. Exclusion can hurt children and they can take it personally. Just imagine your child in that situation. You would hope the mom would be welcoming and nice to your child. One child isn't going to hurt your budget. This will hurt peoples' feelings if you do say no to them. Other kids and their parents that are invited will think of you differently if you exclude. Be positive and happy. She probably got your child a gift.. Well, if it were me that were the one invited by word of mouth, I wouldnt show up because I never got an invitation. That would be considered a party crasher and rude on her behalf as well. SO you dont know for sure that they will show up- but as for what to do....if the party is at your house and really wont cost too much for one more child, then let the child come and i'd probably never speak to the idiot who invited her again! LOL.

But if its at a place like Chuck E Cheese where you actually have to pay per guest, then I would politely call the mother of the uninvited guest and explain to her that you were only holding a small party of your childest closest friends and family and that you really need to stick to your budget, and I would also call up the idiot who invited her and tell her that it was pretty rude that she took it upon herself to invite someone on her own. But- that would probably mean one less kid at the party because she will probably tell you she wont be joining you! IMO- Oh well- one less rude person to deal with! Ha! tell that woman to get the hell out of your party and send them both home!!

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