How can I control my two year old daughters tantrums? She throws herself on the floor and cries histerically.?
Answers:
Throwing a temper tantrum is a natural way for a young child to experiment with feelings and gain independence and control of little bodies. However, there are some things parents can do to prevent tantrums and help the young child learn to control emotions.
Steps:
1. Set a good example. If you act aggressively when you are frustrated or angry, it is only natural for your child to react the same way when frustrated or angry. Try to remain calm and neutral in voice and posture when dealing with tantrums or other frustrating situations. Remind your child in a friendly noncritical voice what response is appropriate instead of the outburst.
2. Observe your child. If you see a tantrum coming on, go and sit near your child. Ask whether something is bothering your child and/or if you can help in some way. Helping your child learn to work through a problem is a valuable lesson.
3. Establish good eating and sleeping routines. Tantrums are sometimes brought on by hunger or fatigue. Planning meals and snacks at about the same time each day will help curb the hunger outbursts. Create bedtime routines for naps and night sleeping. Try to follow the same routine at about the same time each day.
4. Offer choices. If your child presses you on every issue from getting dressed to taking a bath, try involving your child in decision making. Say things like, "Do you want to wear the blue shirt or the red shirt? Do you want a peanut butter or a cheese sandwich? Would you like me to leave the door open or closed while you sleep?" You choose the choices, but your child still feels in control of the situation.
5. Prepare quiet and active times for your child. If you notice your child has been actively frolicking around the house, offer to sit quietly and read a story or build with some blocks. If your child has been cooped up in the house for some time, play an active game indoors with bouncy balls or try to go outside.
6. Warn your child of a change in activity. Before you pack up the toys or get up to leave play group, give your child a 3- to 5-minute warning. Say things like, "We will be leaving in 5 minutes. It is almost time to say, 'Goodbye.' We will be cleaning up blocks in 2 minutes. After we clean up blocks, we will have a snack."
7. Decrease the demands on your child. Limit the restrictions you have on your child's activity. Anger and resistance are natural reactions to strict limitations on a child's movement or creativity.
Tips:
Try distracting your child with a favorite game or activity. Set a timer and tell your child the activity will end or begin when it goes off.
If tantrums occur in public, remove your child to an isolated area and let the tantrum pass. Trying to stop a tantrum with force or shame will only make it worse.
Warnings:
Consult a professional family doctor if you experience extreme frustration or anger when disciplining your child.
Other Answers:
Just don´t pau attention to her. Wait until she gets tired and talk to her about limits and responsability. In order to do so, you´ll have to read a few books first. Look for Montessori´s books on child development. They can help you.
I have the same problem with my 2 1/2 step daughter. I started very calmly picking her up and putting her in on her bed with no toys/tv and telling her when she wants to come back out & play like a big girl I'll be waiting. It usually takes about 5-10 minutes but she's back out with no attitude. Hope this helps. my sister went through that with her daughter , let her get away with everything , now she is 27 and still driving her crazy and controlls her life pretty good . my sis does what she says or she goes off . please do something .
to help stop the tantrums first ignore them
don't work? pick her up and remove her from the room by putting her in her room
the attitude --- smart little girl, i got one too
Explain to her that this does not work and will get her no where
Listen Here,
YOUR DAUGHTER IS 2 YEAR OLD, HOW IN THE WORLD IS SHE CONTROLLING U. TANTRUM MY TAIL, I WOULD WHUP HER BEHIND. SHE DONT CONTROL NOTHIN, YOU PAY THE BILLS NOT HER, SHE IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE IF U DONT TALK TO HER, IF U CONTINUE TO ALLOW HER TO ACT AS THOUGH SHE HAS THE UPPER HAND SHE WILL REBELL IF U TRY TO DO SO AS SHE GETS OLDER. SHOW HER WHOS IN CHARGE, LET HER KNOW U ARE THE ADULT AND SHE IS THE CHILD, IF ANYTHING, U NEED TO BE THROWING THE TANTRUM,!
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Whoop her! It only gets worse as they get older. If you don't get control of her now, years down the road you'll have a 16 year old walking all over you, because you have no control. I'm not saying beat her, just swat her little butt and put her in time out. Kids these days are unruley. Back in the day, parents whooped their kids and the kids didn't do it again. These days it's illegal to use the belt, and kids are running around crazy and defying their parents. I say legal the belt and bring back the paddle!!! As for the attitude, what does she watch on tv? Cartoons have gone out control lately and that could have something to do with America's children being out of control. My daughter loved Rugrats and proclaimed Angelica was fer favorite. Well, I didn't let her watch it anymore and her sass magically dissapeared! Limit tv, and spank her when she's bad! However, when she got REAL sassy, I'd put a drop or two of hotsauce on my finger and put it on her tongue, then proceeded to say "You want to have a hot tongue with me?! I'll give you a hot tongue!" She's the sweetest little angel you'll ever meet now! Never take anyones advice when they recommend spanking, slapping or whooping. It is so ineffective and damages the childs self-esteem. This is normal behavior for a 2 year old. It is not an attitude and you have to get that thinking out of your head. You will end up labeling her and she will believe she is a bad child if you think that way. It is a stage every 2 year old goes through. You just have to redirect and distract at this age and ignore her tantrums. Keep a positive mind and it will rub off on her. They are sponges and pick up on your cues on how to deal with frustration. Check below. If you are curious on what spanking does psychologically, check my previous answers.
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http://parentcenter.babycenter.com/expert/preschooler/pbehavior/69328.html
Kendrafter- bad advice and very abusive!!!!
Walk away or put her in her room. She's testing you to see what she can get away with and "if I do this will I get my way". Don't give in. You're the boss. She's 2. Don't give that kind of behavior any attention. If she has a tantrum, let her have it. She'll eventually tire of the whole ordeal. If that doesn't work after a while, remember, if you spare the rod, you spoil the child.
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