20 month old throws things (usually toys) when she gets mad...?
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I've noticed, with my kids, that if you speak to them in a calm fashion they usually respond better. It's when you scream and yell at them, they get more upset. The main thing is to be calm and it helps to calm them. The temper tantrums are normal, it's when they start to hurt themselves, when it becomes more of a problem.
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you really should try a time out or naughty spott the the nanny i have be using that method and it really works good luck!!!
she will grow out of it,my ten month old throws stuff she is bored with,just tosses them to the side,i hope she does not do that to me some day!no seriosuly she will grow out of,just be firm and ask her not to throw things in a low voice(go supernanny) because she might hurt you,and if she continues use the naughty step(go supernanny again)i dont approve of spanking either
I know this sounds cruel but just throw them back at her (obviously with no intent to harm her!) You will find she will tire of it. Dont speak to her when you do it as she is looking for conversational attention!
You can tell her to be nice to her toys but what she needs is the words to express her feelings. When she throws a toy get down on her level and look her in the eyes ask her why she is throwing that toy. If she is mad and does not say it ask her if she is mad. Tell her she needs to use her words to say how she is feeling. Make faces with her to teach her some of the different feelings mad, sad, happy, surprised. Ask her to make her face look like yours. She will learn how to express her feelings as well as to know yours if she can't say the words.
Is there any reason she gets mad? Do you have a new baby in the house?
At 20 months children get frustrated as they are exploring and want to try new things - they are also limited in their communication so they can't articulate what they want so they will do things to demand attention! I think taking the toy away is a good idea! Don't yell at her (not saying you do that!) - try to stay calm (hard - I know), sit her down and talk gently!
I don't think there are any hard and fast rules in child rearing as every child is different but I hope these suggestions help!
If you do not approve of spanking then you need a time out chair especially if it isn't just toys and you need to start putting her toys away when she starts to throw them and don't give them back she will realize that when you take a few of them away it'd not a good idea to throw them any more. when something else gets wheeled across the room a time out is the best solution
take all toys away from her and ignore,ignore,ignore,ignore a temper tantrum. Dont acknowlege any screaming, kicking(unless its at you), crying or whining. They soon realize that this behavior gets them nowhere. Remember to stay very calm b/c they know when they are getting to you. If they know what they do affects you then they will continue.
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It's perfectly normal I just finished reading Parents Magazine for this month has a column about that subject.
It has to do with them going through a power struggle..They are seeing and experimenting to see what the limits are of what they are doing. Plus says to not have an over reaction to it because your reaction may be what they like to see.
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2 1/2 year nanny of Girl 5, boy 3, girl 2
You need to walk up to her with the toy that she has thrown. Kneel down on her level. Look her in the eyes. Grab her hands and say, in a forceful, but not scary voice, "No, you do not throw toys. Mommy will take them away if you do not stop." If she continues to do it, I'd start putting her in a "naughty spot". Make sure that you remain consistent though.
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