my daughter who is 2 1/2 is throwing major temper tantrums?
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She is very angry because of the recent split up. It is so hard for children to understand. Empathize with her as much as possible. "I know you miss daddy. I can tell you're sad, mad, angry, upset..."
When she starts a tantrum, take her gently to a place away from you (the couch, her room) and say "When you are ready to calm down you can come back with me." This is not a time out (you controlling her). She comes back when she's ready to control herself. It may take several tries for her to get the message. When she calms down, talk with her about her feelings. Be patient and calm.
You should also do your best to show her you and her father get along. Spend a little time together with her.
You may also want to consider taking her to a play therapist. I know a lot of people run form this idea but it really helps.
Give her lots of extra love, always have open arms, smile and laugh with her. Best of luck!
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This is what Supernanny was about last night.
don't let her see it affect's you if you show that it bother's you it will only get worse I think you should look into a child therapist. Find a good one. My dad left when I was three, I didn't act out that way but I had crying fits. Counseling really helped me.
She doesn't need counseling, she's not even 3 yet, lol.
You should have watched super nanny.
She's too young to tell calm down, but you should ask her "Honey, what's wrong? What do you want?"
I know that calmed my daughter down this morning.
If that doesn't work, try holding her on your lap and restraining her til she stop crying. Then ask her "What's the matter?"
When she's 4 -- if she's still doing this -- call Supernanny, lol.
The best thing to do is ignore the tantrums. I know it sounds awful to let her lay there and scream, but she will learn one of 2 things: either the tantrums get her some attention or they don't.
This is part of what is known as the "terrible two's". Just walk away from her when she starts throwing tantrums. Eventually she will learn that tantrums only get ignored.
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Pediatrician
My daughter just turned 2 and she does the same thing and my husband and i are still together. So im not sure thats completely the reason she is acting out. It could be maybe she is not getting as much attention from you as she did before. I started babysitting a baby and on the days i have the baby she is 10x worse. When my daughter starts throwing fits i walk away until she is done then when she is done i will do what she needs or wants but while she throws the fit i do nothing. By doing this it shows that she gets nothing done for her while she is acting out then when she has calmed down she gets somewhere. Here is a site that is very helpful. Good luck.
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http://parenting.ivillage.com/tp/tpbehavior/topics/0,,4rtq,00.html ignore her! might sound cruel but ignore her, show her that her behavouir is not affecting you. leave her in a room that you know she will be safe in even if you are just standing outside the door. you will feel nasty, you will feel guilty, but u have to be strong! Age old saying "you have to be cruel to be kind" let her have her tantrum, let her scream and shout and get it out of her system. then when she realises "mummys not giving in" she will give in. and once she has calmed her self down then you can re enter the room and talk to her. she will be so pleased to see you and you will get more out of her when she calm. there is no point molly cuddling a child who has tantrums, becaus ehtey learn that if mummy gives in, mummy will always give in even as they grow up this will continue but with age it increase. the best thing is to attack it now and teach her now that it aint acceptable. even though shes 2 years old. 2 year olds are more susectable than u realise!!!!
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my 4 year old daughter, my 7 year old daughter and my 9 year old daughter
My daughter is the same way. She is 5 and hers just got worse. I haev come to learn that it is all about the time that I do or do not spend with her. I like you am a single mom I also have a 8 year old son. I work late and then when I get home I have to cook and clean and get ready for the next day all the while listening to her scream and yell and wine. I hate it. But I started involving her in evrything that I do when I get home. She helps with dinner, setting the table, putting the dishes in the dish washer and things like that. i have found that if I keep her busy, there is less time for tantrums. But when she does, I send her to her room until she can calm down. She used to be in there for hours at a time, but she has learned that as soon as she stops, we talk and then I let her out. It is hard when you have to be both parents. They really should come with instructions! =-)
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