help.............. 2 yr old is driving me bonkers.......?
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Well, she's getting sleep sometime.
You must get on a schedule and put her to bed at the same time for a week or two.
Take the TV out of the room with her toddler bed. (At least turn it off when she goes to bed)
What's the harm of having her sleep with you every now and then? It would save you a trip in the middle of the night to lug her back to her bed.
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thats wat 2 yr olds do
get a nanny
drown her...........just kidding..throw her in a hole. she is jealous but u have be firm with her and as understanding as possible. she is still a baby but u cant be too soft or she run u over. good luck
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well the way that I solved that probole with mine is I got them up real earlly in the morning and then I gave them a bath and let them play for about a hour in the bath tub and then I got them out and put a cartoon on in their room on the tv and then they ended up going to sleep.
hi hun i no this must be hard ... try involving her with the baby feeding , changing , hugging .. she may be feeling left out or when ur feeding the baby be hugging her too ... hope this helpsi have seen this like a million times, try to contact the show that does the supernany or 911nany show and see if they will use you for thier show and help you solve it. the basic thing i see them do is make sure you make seporate time for the older jelouse kid but make sure that they know that what they are doing is not ok too, like a time out chair, keep putting them back on their seat as many times as you have to untill they stay dont even talk to them just keep putting them there and when they finaly stay a couple minutes get down on your knees so your at thier level and tell them what they did and that it was wrong that this is what momy is going to do from now on when they dont listen, have them say sorry and give them a hug and they can resume playing. use the same thing for bed time, keep putting the girl back in her bed and shut the door do it over and over till she stops comming out, no eye contact, no talking. it works but you have to make it a constant thing or the kid wont take you seriously. try it, keep strong and i hope this works for you. try to make time also where you can involve the older child in taking care of the litteler child, like playing together, or letting her help you change a diaper,involve her, show her how to be the bigger sister. mine does that at 15 months only he isn't doingg it because of another baby he is doin it because he has me 24/7 other then bed.. so he Wants to stay up to be with me... So I have been using a baby gate on his door in his room ( so he can see me but he cant reach me) he is starting to learn that he has to have his space sometimes and I have to have mine.. to clean or what not.
this may be weird getting an answer from a sixteen year old but when i was four my mom thought i needed a little brother or sister .. i got a brother and at the time i was staying with my grandmother out of town . when my grandma got the phone call i was out swimming with her neighbor and i puked all over her .. when i came home i was like your two year old i was upset that i had to share my mommy. what my mom did was made my dad watch the baby and her and I would go and do something together ... be it play with dolls or go to the zoo. she made it fell like she was still there and the baby didn't have all her time. it took awhile but i came to understand that it was a good thing for there to be another baby. (my cheeks wouldn't get pinched as much) just show her that you still love her the same ... and who knows maybe she might do it with her children because she liked it so much if you did it
AWW I feel for you. It's obvious she needs her mummys love and attention. I know it's pretty tiring but hang in there. Give her the attention she needs. Have her help you with caring for younger one or have your mum or someone close feed or nappy change your younger one so you can have time with your older daughter. Maybe even a story when she goes to bed. Things will improve and so will her sleeping routine. Do you have someone who can help you out so you can get some rest from time to time? It will help you.A schedule works great for me. Though i do understand that it's not right for everyone. Put her down for bed at the same time everynight, preferably before 9pm(along with little rituals before bed, like read a book,or take a bath ect.). If she gets up, just put her right back to bed, explain to her that it is bed time and time to go to sleep. If she keeps getting up, just stay patient and keep putting her back, eventually she will go to sleep. Try not to sit with her though, just put her back to bed and leave. Do the same if she gets up in the middle of the night. It will be hard at first and may take a while (a few days to a week), but eventually she will get used to this and go to bed with no problems. Try to set aside special time during the day when the baby is napping for you two to do something, this might help mend any jealous feeling she may be having. Try sitting with both of them and telling her that she is a big sister now let her help you as much as she can,It is a little time consuming but it will pay off in the end.And as for the sleeping in her own bed,I would wait till she is fast asleep put her in her bed and when she gets back up in your bed just keep putting her back eventually she will realize that she has to stay in her bed but at the same time tell her how much you love her.hope this helps
You have more than 1 problem going on here. If she is not taking naps and can't go to sleep -what time is she waking up? Cut all pop and sweets out of her diet--for 2 weeks set a wake up time, 3 mealtimes, 1 snack time ,bath time, and a bedtime.You have to give it 2 weeks to see a difference.
Next--get her involved as much as possible with the baby--make her feel part of taking care of the baby. Ask her to check on the baby, ask her to help you feed the baby(even if it makes more of a mess)ask her to help with the baby's bath time , ask her to pick out an outfit for the baby, let her bring the bottle to you, etc.
When the baby is napping --make special time for you and your 2 year old--read her a story- draw together--share a special snack, get down on the floor and play with her and her toys, watch her favorite cartoon with her, bake cookies with her,etc. Just make it special.
Most of all praise your 2 year old for all that she does--let her know she is special too. Lots of hugs and kisses. No yelling.
Ok, first of all, sleeping. The jealousy will get better if she is well rested. If you have one, pull out your pack and play and make that her bed for right now. She may not be ready for the toddler bed and you both need sleep. This may also encourage her to stay in the toddler bed, most kids don't like having to go back to "baby" things like that. Secondly, try to do some activities with her when the 2 month old is sleeping, make cookies, get out the play dough, reading books, you know what she likes best. Make it special for her, tell her it's your secret time together. She just wants some affirmation from you that she's still important to you and loved by you.
For times when you need to take care of your new baby, turn on the TV. I don't care what people say about this, 1/2 an hour will not hurt. She needs to learn how to keep herself entertained when you cannot and TV works for a lot of kids.
Bless your heart, I know it's hard but you can do it! I'm sure you are a wonderful mom. Get dad involved as well, he needs to help out more if you are feeling this stressed, if not dad, your parents, siblings, neighbor, someone. Don't worry about asking for help, people will not think less of you. Good luck!
Sweety I feel for you. I had this same problem when my second daughter was born. My oldest daughter was so jealous and used those same tricks to get my attention. Get her involved in the care of the new baby and make time during the day to just spend some one on one with her so she doesnt feel deprived. Eventually it will start to get better as she adjusts to not being the only child. I'll warn you this though...even though my oldest isnt like that anymore..she stll gets very jealous at times. You just have to deal with it as it comes. Love her & ask a GOOD friend for help
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