Is this normal for a 3 year old?

My 3 yearold has started acting really strange for him. He is kicking, screaming, telling me he doesnt like me. He hits on his lil brother all the time. He was never like this untill about 2-3 weeks ago. I always try to use a calm voice with him, but that doesnt always happen. I do spank him, but I dont thank that could have ne thing to do with it. I mean, I dont spank him out of anger or ne thing. Could there be something going on with him. We r a very loving family.

Could he be just missing his daddy, because he has been working alot lately. He has also just resently lost his babysitter that he was close to. She had to find other employment so she could make more money.

What can I do to help him threw this bump? And what can I do to help him controll his angery out burst?

Answers:
I say normal, but I don't say ignore. I've had four kids (three boys). Angry outburst usually were calmed by more attention. I got involved with Cub Scouts with one son and taking him with me on errands.

My gut says the combination of losing the baby sitter and dad working late are culprits here.

I'm no expert, but after four kids, I'm confident there are not experts.

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I think this is because you are paying more attention to the smaller child and somehow, make him feel a little left out and neglected. He is doing this to get your attention.

I think what u can do is when you are trying to show love (like kissing the smaller child on the forehead), do that on him too and explain to him that u love him as much as u love the smaller one. Intro him to the smaller child and tell him what he should do as a brother.

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My son has been acting like this alot lately too. He is also 3. He is constantly telling me he doesn't like me anymore that he only loves daddy. I have started time outs and have tried to ignore some things just so he doesn't get the negative attention I think he wants. If you find something that works let me know. I am at the end of my rope. I'm assuming that he hasen't recently started any new meds? Spanking should only be done to demonstrate pain. If your child is about to put a fork into an electrical outlet for the third time, give him a little swat on the butt and expalain firmy that he will get hurt. Or if he keeps hurting someone else etc. Kids go through stages, hopefully it will pass soon. Remember, model the desired behavior and BE CONSISTENT. Good Luck

knowl you spanking him, you need to learn that game I was though it's call TARE THAT *** UP use that I promise he won't say he don't like you no more, it will be all hugs and kisses.

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We have been through this twice now and a change in scheduling has been a BIG factor for our boys. They need consistency. My little one is 5 now and still throws fits like a 2 year old. The only way I know to calm him down is for him to lay in his bed and I rub his hair repeating RELAX, RELAX. I know it might sound silly but it really does work. Almost like I am helping him meditate. For the oldest, we just had to sit down and ask why he is upset. He hasn't always been able to tell us but if we keep telling him we care and want to know, he is more apt to let us help. Screaming and spanking doesn't always work. I know how frustrating it can be for you, just try to remember that they are little people and they can't always express themselves in the right words either.

It sounds like you are trying your best, hang in there!
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THIS IS NORMAL ALMOST ALL KIDS I KNOW HAVE GONE THROUGH THIS AT ABOUT 2 OR 3 YEARS OF AGE.DON'T WORRY THIS WILL PASS AND TRY NOT TO TAKE IT PERSONALLY WHEN HE SAYS THINGS THEY DON'T REALLY HATE THEY'RE PARENTS.TRY NOT TO SPANK HIM WHEN HE ACTS UP BECAUSE IT WILL ONLY MAKE HIM WORSE.EVEN WITHOUT HAVING THE DAD WORKING SO MUCH AND THE BABYSITTER LEAVING HE WOULD OF PROBABLY STILL DONE THIS.SO HANG IN THERE AND BE THERE FOR HIM AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. well i think it is normal because i have a 3yr old cousin who does the same stuff to her mom..and its really sad.she recently got potty trained and got rid of her binki...some 3yr old are like that..but hittin his little brother isnt right you try putting him in timeout or making him got to bed earlier if hits them because we all know thats not right...make sure you also spend equal time with both of the children and that neither of them feel neglected.maybe you shoul see a specialist about it...

here is what i would do:
1. Don't spank him
2. try your best to spent the same number of time with both of them
3. Ask his dad if he could work part-time
4. try and keep his little bro away from him when you feel like he's going to hit him

since he is a boy and hes growing up maybe he just realized your a girl...and he is longing for time with a guy. I know a lot of little boys and girls go through a phase where they don't like the opposite sex parent...its because they may have realized your different and juts not know why yet. Also you said you have a younger child, maybe he just feels ignored and unloved. Just pay a little more attention to him and explain to him that his younger sibling needs the attention just like he did at that age and that hes a big boy and should help to "protect" his younger sibling. This will make him feel important and maybe wat to help take care of his younger sibling. Like if your changing your baby let him help by handing you diapers or putting the powder on the baby or even helping to close the diaper. Also terrible 2 syndrome doesn't just happen to 2 year olds its just the general age children go through that "bad" stage... Generally, if there is a sudden change you might want to see if there is something happening in his environment. Some loss like you mentioned, some abuse etc. You may want to find some way of reducing whatever change there is, if you can identify it. Also at that age, he is trying t individuate himself and recognizes he is his own person and that he is able to control for some of his environement obviously not yet with intellect and words but with tantrums and hitting etc. With regards to parenting, I always find it interesting how a parent uses aggression to teach a child not to be aggressive. As a child he does need somewhat of the shock factor to let him know what he is doing is wrong but we all ultimately learn best from modeling and what we have seen so be careful about using that. He is getting old enough to use other consequences and try to spend some positive time with him as he needs attention especially with the losses.

Definitely with the changes in his life with sitter and dad it is understandable. Obviously if your sitter is gone, his routine has changed. Does his new sitter (or you) make sure he gets his nap at same time (3 yr old still needs nap or down time)? Is he getting up earlier, or going to bed later to stay up and see daddy? Now that his little 1 yr old brother is more mobile, he is probably encroaching on his space more, getting into his toys etc. where before he might have been like furniture, just a thing that was there. Establish a routine, and recognize when he is getting tired or frustrated, and minimize his contact with younger sibling during this time. As the parent who is with him and disciplining him, he might be saying he doesn't like you because the parent who is gone doesn't have to be there and is "the good guy". If my daughter does something wrong, I make sure her daddy also talks to her about it so she knows we are on same page.

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