my son who is 19 months old throws the worst tantrums so my question is what kind of punishments work?

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Tantrums are a trademark of the terrible-twos. They are super-sensitive at this stage, and they have the added frustration of not being able to express themselves well.

It is important to know that tantrums ARE NOT LOGICAL. You might know why it started, but when a child is in the middle of a tantrum, he cannot be reasoned with anymore.

For tantrums at home, try hugging him tightly until he calms down. Ask him, are you sad? If he responds to this, try to get him to tell you why he is sad. Is he hungry? Does he want this toy? Is he crying because you left the mall? Tell him you're sorry he's sad. Then offer a distraction or a choice between 2 things. <<Do you want us to read this book or play with this toy?>>

If this doesn't work for your son, follow the experts' advice. Don't "reward" his tantrum with attention. If he is clinging to you, fold your arms, turn your back to him, look up at the ceiling, anything to let him know you are 'ignoring' him. This will make him scream louder for a while. When eventually his crying wanes a little (even if you know he is just catching his breath),
kneel down and ask him if he is all done crying. If he resumes crying, stand up and ignore him again. Wait for another break in this crying, and ask again if he is all done. Do this AS MANY TIMES AS NECESSARY. When he IS DONE (!), give him a big hug and tell him how happy you are that he is done, and that you
love him to bits.

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Ground HIm spank him on the butt

Don't give him any attention (positive or negative). When he calms down, then he can be recognized. This enforces that tantrums won't get him what he wants, or anything else, for that matter. Good luck!

First of all "punishments" don't work, you need to discipline your child. Don't give in, ignore, don't get yourself mad or frustrated. The most important thing is to reward good behaviour (use stickers and charts) and to not bribe. I think it might be a good idea for you to start watching "Supernanny" on tv - she has some amazing ideas! I don't know whether she has a book or website, though. Good luck - it's worth the struggle to get a well-behaved child!

You need to get a carpet, a small round one and he has to sit there 2 minutes multiplied by is age so hes about a year old so 2 minutes will seem forever to him. If that dosent work start taking things out of his room, but before doing this i would talk with your spose and if your son can talk explain to him that the parents are getting serious and it will not be this way and all presents and treats will be put on hold until he begins to be nice and be good.
Good Luck!

a firm no and a pop on the hand can work, also there are time outs, like make him sit on the couch and not get off if he does then pop his hand My little sister did. She'd scream till she pass out. They throw a tantrum for a reason, and thats usually because they want something. So don't give it to them. They find out that it doesn't work and stop. If you give it to them they'll keep doing it because it works.

Don't give them time out it never worked on me i'd find something to do whether it play with my fingers or take a nap. And don't send them to there room, duh toys, that's the best punishment ever to them. A simple spanking works, Two slaps on the butt. Just don't slap so hard that you bruse her/him. But forwarn them When they start , say "do you want a spanking?" And if they keep going then actually give them one, but whatever you do don't give them what they want or they'll never stop.

Spanking. 19-month-old children do not have the capacity for reason, so explaining to him that it's not nice to throw a tantrum will not work. YOU have to be the parent, and YOU have to make it clear to him that YOU are the boss -- NOT HIM. If you give in every time he throws a tantrum, he'll learn that he can get whatever he wants from you by crying and screaming and stamping his feet, so he'll end up manipulating you for the rest of his life. If you ignore him, you send him the message that he's not important enough to you to deal with, and that's a bad way to go.

You need to nip this in the bud NOW. It's your responsibility to teach him that certain behavior is not acceptable and that actions have consequences. You don't have to beat his little butt black and blue; two firm swats will do the trick. You can develop it further by telling him "No" when he's doing anything wrong, then you can count to ten -- not only will he learn his numbers, he'll learn that he earns himself a spanking every time you get to ten. The important thing is you have to be consistent. If you set the standard and then fail to hold him to it, his bad behavior will ultimately be your fault.

MY SON SON IS 19 MONTHS AND WHEN HE THROWS A TANTRUM I JUST SHOW HIM THE BELT AND HE CALMS DOWN NOW I DONT ABUSE HIM OR NOTHING LIKE THAT I FEEL BADWHEN I POP HIM SO TRY BELT METHOD BUT JUST POP HIM WITH IT A COUPLE TIMES JUST TO HURT HIS FEELINGS A LITTLE BIT. My daughter was doing the same thing a month ago. Every little thing would send her into a rage, espcially if she was tired. I looked at her, told her that is NOT appropraite in my best mom voice, and ignored any other tantrum behavior. Worked like a charm, her behivor lasted only about a week. She was 17 months old.

The best way to tackle his tantrums are to ignore him. Don't give him any of your attention whether positive or negative. You must not look him in the eye or touch him or speak to him. even if he runs round after you, do not look at him .

Eventually he will calm down, he will learn that he can't wind his mummy or daddy up like that anymore. When he calms down you can give him a big hug and a kiss, please be sure to tell him that you like it when he is calm and quiet. Tell him that when he's quiet that you like it very much. That way you will reinforce the behaviour you want to see from him.

When he is 3-4 years old you can sit him on a step if you have one and tell him he has to stay there for 3 minutes is he is 3 years old and 4 minutes if he is 4 years old.

But never give him any punishments.
His tantrums are not aimed at you. he is just frustrated and he can't express himself in the right way.

It might take a few times to get to grips with this, but it's far better method than any other.

Punishing them by hitting them, shouting, etc... he wouldn't understand what is going on, he is too young.
Besides its abuse.

First of all, is he getting enough sleep. A lot of times tantrums happen due to lack of sleep. You should punish him by telling him "no", then put him in his room or space to calm down. At this age they don't understand explanations so one word should be it. Please seek more information on parenting from as many places as you can.I'v raised 2 boys and I can tell you it is far better to teach than punish.First you need to know why he's having a fit.Is he tired,is it because he can't deal with the word no, or is it for attention; there is always a reason and a pay-off.If you stay calm and remain their parent intsead of getting angry and becoming the person who punishes you can maintain a healthy perspective and teach him to also.

Aaaah, yes... I've been there. I tried it all... Time outs, spanking, yelling, explaining, bribing. Guess what? NONE of it really worked. You have to try them all and see what works for you. I hate when people on this site tell you NOT to do something. Each child is different and what works for me may not work for you.

My daughter is the most stubborn little person you ever want to meet. What I do now is offer her a choice (if possible), if neither is acceptable to her and the tantrum continues, I tell her "I know you're upset but Mommy can't understand screaming and crying. So when you're done come get me and we'll work it out together." I leave her wherever she is and keep doing what I'm doing. She eventually stops and comes and tells me what the problem is. If she does it in a public venue, I remove her from the place and let her work it out in the car. When she's done, we go back. Slowly, she's starting to realize that tantrums don't work.

You could also try Dr. Karp's "Happiest toddler on the block" method. He likens toddlers to cavemen and talks to them on their level. I couldn't do it though... I felt too silly.
Source(s):
www.thehappiestbaby.com/toddle...

My sister in law took a soaking wet towel and tossed it across my niece when she threw one of her infamous tantrums ( I mean they were hell) and she never did it again. -Sounds strange, I know, but its worth a try. By saying he is Italian you are justifying his behavior. Are you and your husband Italian too? Do either one of you have bad a temper too? One of you must, and that means he is learning that behavior from one of you. My son Is almost two and he doesn't have temper tantrums. He gets mad, but we let him express his feelings and tell him to move on. I think this works because his tantrums are short and to the point. His usual form of protest is just laying on the ground and grunting. I say to him, go ahead you're allowed to get mad, and then i just walk away. He gets over it real quick since there is no fuel to his fire. I also have to add that my husband never yell at each other when we are angry. We wait until he is asleep to address our differences.I suppose that helps too. I don't think punishment is the answer at this point. Maybe some behavior modification for you and your husband. good luck.

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